Before i get started, let me say, i'm here seeking for advice. I don't need people bagging on me, just give me your adovce. thank you!
So i am 14, I recently met thes guy. I was introduced to him by his older sister (who is my neighbor, she is 21 and lives on her own with her husband) She introduced us, and we really got along. Well, turned out he is 18. Need i say more?
He is illegal, he is 18 and i am 14. But the thing is, i don't get along with guys my age, im not trying to act stuck up or so fourth, but i have been told i am mature than most 14 year olds, i have been through a lot in my life, which has led me to grow up faster than i should have.
..We are JUST FRIENDS right now, and it doesn't bother him that I am 14. I talked with my mom about all of this, and she said that she honestly doesn't mind his age, she has met him, and thinks he is an absolute sweatheart. And that as long as he treats me right, i have her approval. But in your opinion, what do you think about this?
He is the first guy that i can actually relate to, and he is not judgemental. He's not talking to me to get into my pants, or any of that. We are taking this slow, but i'm still not sure..
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You are 14 now - but before you are 16 he will definitely desire a more intimate relationship.
Will he be leaving town for college?
You should probably stick to being friends.
And, I know you don't want to hear this - but over the years I've heard many people tell young people things to bolster their confidence and self-image - one of the most frequent of those comments is: "You're mature for your age." I've never liked it because it goes straight to some kids' heads. That doesn't mean it's a lie - but the truth is - we are the age we are. You are 14 and he is 18. A LOT has happened to him in the last four years and A LOT will happen to you in the next four years.
My personal feeling is you should just be friends - and you should concentrate more on your female friendships with girls you know. The boy thing will come along. You'll begin finding some boys within a year of your age that you like. Be patient - have fun with your girlfriends.
Good luck.
It's no surprise that you get along with an 18-year-old because, in general, girls mature faster than boys. However, as you mentioned, the age difference makes it illegal for the two of you to be dating. It shows great responsibility on your part to talk to your mom about this. He sounds like a great guy and if he's willing to wait for you until you're 18, then you have a real gem on your hands!
It'll be okay. Go out with him, sweetie. My boyfriend was 19 and I was 14 when we started going out. It was hard at first, and people called me a whore and made him seem like the bad guy, but we got through it. We've been together nearly a year and a half now and I can tell you, I've never been happier with anyone (even the ones closer to my age). He is mature like me so we have mutual feelings and understanding. If this 18 year old likes you, go out with him! It'll be great^^. You'll see.
i've been in the same exact situation as you [cept my parentals weren't really approving] but honestly, your age gap isn't that bad. i was dating a 21year old when i was 14 x__x really bad idea.
and age doesn't really matter if you guys connect and relate well enough. if you're comfortable with him, your parents approve, your friends approve and he seems like a sweetie, why the hell not? but yeah you should be careful about the physical aspect though, because even if at first, he seems like the gentleman-ly type, guys can feel the need to be a little more intimate.
so go ahead, have fun. just always be cautious until you can truly trust him :]
It is not illegal for you to date. If you have your parents blessing, go for it. What is illegal is for him to have sex with you. At 14, no matter what your maturaty level, you should not be consenting to intercourse. Most people think that if you are dating an older guy you're more likely to have sex, but sex is a common curiosity whether 14 or 18.
Good luck and be safe.
Well, I say that AGE DOES NOT MATTER.
It all depends on whether or not both of you will be faithful to each other. Since your mother doesn't mind at all, and you did say that you are mature enough, there's hope. :)
Who knows? Maybe, he'll be the one... Maybe, you'll find someone else.
Only God knows.
The age difference is OK. Just concentrate on your studies for now.
Do not go forward. Stop NOW. Wrong path and you'll both end up very sorry if your proceed.
just do whatever you think is the best... trust yourself