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That would be called "playing games" and it's not worth it, in my opinion. If you want to talk to him, then talk to him. Don't play games.

To me, it sounds like this is a classic long-distance relationship where you are not getting what you need, and it's hurting you more than helping you. You are hurt, you are scared, and it seems like you made a brave move in ending it. Don't doubt yourself too much, it seems like there were reasons.

From what you said, for example - "i think i wanted him to assure me he'd try to come home sooner,, or would do something drastic in a way" -- Did he? No, he didn't. So, when will it be enough? When will your needs be met? Is the situation changing in a certain amount of time? If you really don't want to lose him, maybe you can take a break instead of a break-up and try again later. Think about it for a little while, give yourself some time, maybe a week or so, and talk about it then if you want to. If you're ready to talk now, and you know it, then don't wait, but if you're confused, think it over.

But don't play games. That kind of communication is manipulative and indirect and confusing, I always hate it when I do it and when I receive it (yes, both) so I try to avoid it whenever possible and just talk instead. It's always MUCH more rewarding, especially when the situation is confusing or complicated.

From intercourse and the city: i'm no longer right here yet my shoes are so please pass away them a message. i won't be able to answer your IM because of the fact i'm sliding around in socks and underclothes enjoying air guitar- back

you should put something up immediately cuz he thinks its true and you might lose him if you dont act soon. and explain to him what you just posted. put something like didnt mean it, talk to me, we need to talk jsut something..