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having a baby with anencephaly is a traumatic experience. my daughter was stillborn at 21 weeks due to anencephaly next thursday will be 6 yrs. but any kind of loss of a baby is going to be hard. im sry that she has to go thru this.

Yes, it helps to know that you're not alone when going through a loss like this. Yes, it's a very different situation, she's probably obviously pregnant and excited about seeing her little bub on the ultrasound, when she got hit with this tonne of bricks, while a woman in the first trimester always knows that miscarriage is a possibility, so, while it doesn't make it any less devastating, there was still a small element of expectation there.

But yes, do share, and tell her how you got through the pain. Don't trivialise her pain right now, don't tell her that she can go on and have another baby, no other baby could ever take the place of the baby she's losing. Just tell her that you lost a baby too, that you know the pain of losing a child and that you're so sorry that she's having to go through this. Then give her a hug and let her cry it out and tell her that, if she ever needs to talk, that you'll be there for her. When she gives her baby a name, always, ALWAYS refer to the baby by it's name, to hear her baby's name might make her cry, but will let her know that you consider her little one a person and a dearly missed family member too. It will mean a lot to her.

I'm so sorry that your family is having to go through this, infant loss is so devastating.

Really sorry to hear abt u n ur niece...

Bt i thnk u r tryn to help her if u bring it up....

try discussing anencephaly wid her...

an anenceph baby hz no survival...n it will be more traumatic for her wen she has been carrying it for full term...it is detrimental to her health as well

im sure u will come up wid da ryte thng to say to her

bt do

I think so. Loss is loss.