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I think someone should tell her not to dictate what happens at his party. I would have it the weekend before the wedding and basically have fun doing whatever the groom wants. If she doesn't trust him she shouldn't marry him. Sounds like she has some insecurities she needs to deal with!

Still consider her feelings but do whatever the Groom wants!

First of all, were these rules all made by the fiance or did they agree on things? Does she have any rules for the bachelorette party? He may be blaming her so he doesn't look stupid for not wanting certain things. My husband and I talked about things before hand, but no rules were made. But we both knew how the other felt on certain things.

Second, don't encourage your fiance to do anything stupid, i.e. the tattoo. If the friend is as whipped as you say, he will not go along with it, he has chosen to marry this woman - don't make his life any more difficult, and finally, this is his bachelor party so do something he will enjoy.

My husband went golfing all day for his bachelor party, and then they went camping. All they guys had a blast. They all brought their coolers to the campsite and got everything set up. They made burgers on the grills, and sat around the fire all night bs-ing and drinking.

What does the friend enjoy doing? It is entirely possible to have a great party without drugs, strippers, tattoos, etc. Think about what he would enjoy and just get the guys together for a good time.

good luck, hope they find something fun.

Go to like a casino or sports bar. Play some drinking games. Camping maybe? I don't know what the groom likes to do so it's hard to say. Oh and the strippers are in poor taste for a man (or woman) about to be married, & drugs are illegal so I get that rule. The rest of the rules are ridiculous though. Why would you want to make this mans fiance mad at him? Seriously you know if you had him get a tattoo with another girls name on it she's going to be mad. Not at you not in general, but with him. Why bring the drama on purpose?

I recently was invited to a bachelor party where the groom had a golf outing between all of his buddies, complete with fun contests and prizes for many of the holes. We had tons of fun for the entire day and then afterwards continued the party in clubhouse until closing. We had limos pick us up and take us home, so we drank all we wanted and the golf course was very accommodating!! No hangovers the next day either for the wedding...it was great!!! We were ready to party it up the next night all over again. I thought it was unique, fun and a great idea!!

Well if he can't leave the state, that rules out a casino, which would be a good idea. . .Obviously he wouldn't be okay with getting a tattoo- that's a little too permanent, and he IS marrying this woman after all! Can't he talk to this woman about how crazy she is acting??? I mean, I know some girls hate the idea of strippers, but it's really all in good fun. . .Otherwise, they'll just have to hit up a bunch of local bars until 12. . . .=/ . . . Good luck!!!

BTW, to the above poster: she never mentioned that they would "fool around" with strippers, because they aren't prostitutes. It's all in good fun, relax. And who says that it's the night before and he needs to rest. We aren't talking about a toddler who needs a nap. ROFL. Some people need to lighten up.

There are many activities that they can do. Go to a bar, casino, sailing, paintball shooting, road trip, sporting event, camping, have a BBQ, poker party. The possibilities are endless. A bachelor party is just a glorious "hanging out with the guys" event and you should do some of the same stuff that he normally does with the guys.

What a control freak. Wow.

My husband had a poker party (strippers were there too, but I could have cared less)

You could see if someone could do a henna tattoo that would fade away-that would be hysterical.

Or just take him to a strip club and get him nice and drunk before midnight!

I just don't understand women's insecurities when it comes to guys and bachelor parties. Just because they are going to a party doesn't mean that something is going to happen and if a woman has such reservations about it then maybe they shouldn't be getting married!

I helped plan my brother in law's party with my hubby and his brother's best friend. With those strict rules I can't think of a damn thing for them to do besides watch a movie at someones house, drink very little and go home. And what fun is that...just the fact she wants him home at midnight take out a lot of options. I hope that is isn't going to be this controlling once he marries her...

I think he should call the wedding off! If she's like this now what's she gonna be like when they get married. Good idea about the tattoo though, I think he should have a thumb print tattooed on his forehead, cos that's what he's got to look forward to - being under the thumb. Poor bloke.

Paintball! He probably has a lot of aggression to get out, being engaged to her and all...