I have a sister and she is older than me by 2 yrs. We both have chores. She works inside the house and i work outside. All she does is the dishes. These are the things i have to do. I have to feed the dog, i have to water and mow (I hope i spelled that right) the grass, I have to pick up the dog's poo and throw it away, I have to take out the trash, I have to clean the grill, I have to wash the dog, i sometimes wash the cars, mop the floor outside and clean the dog's vommit sometimes. I think i missed out some but there is so much to do. And then my parents make a new job for me every week (I have a lot more to do than this list). What really stinks is that i have to do cleaning on the inside as well sometimes, I am stuck doing the bathrooms when she is supposed to be doing the inside of the house. They always say i must stop hanging in my room and get some fresh air, well i stay in my room because every time i go downstairs to play sports or somthing my parents are calling my name to do work. Sometimes, when my mom needs help with something and my sister is right next to her do whatever, she calls me from upstairs to come and do it, and i have never seen my sister do any work. My dad once called me to make him a cup of tea and my sister was right there watching TV and he didnt ask her. Do you think that my parents are being a bit unfair. because i am starting to get frustrated. I wanna tell them this but they are always against my side and they don't wanna be wrong in an arguement. They are the only people on this earth who are hard to talk to.
Please help me.
Update:The only work i know i have to do is clean my room.
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If what you say is ALL the information ~ YES... this does seem a little out of balance!
As a parent it can be hard to make everything 'even' ...sometimes the age of one child or the interests of one child or simply what one is good at/not so good at mean that the balance can get a little out of wack... however (imo) balance should be the aim!
However, is there more too this?
There can be exceptions or special circumstances that change the dynamics in the house... I know that sometimes I ask more of one of my children because when I ask them they always do it & always do it well ... one of my other children is such a pain to get to do things (let alone do it properly) that sometimes actually asking them creates work for me.... BUT... as I said, it is about balance so sometimes the pain of asking them is worth the message it sends to them & to the other members of the household!
Consider WHY your parents ask you & not your sister eg my sister has more responsibilities at school or with her study?...AND... if you REALLY feel it is out of balance go & talk with your parents about this... but go with a mature mind (you will not achieve anything by whining!) ... have your facts
eg - On Monday I did XYZ and Sister did A & B, On Tuesday I did XYZ and sister did A, on Wednesday I did XYZ and sister did B etc etc (this does involve you keeping track & taking notes!!!
Simply present the information & ask that you BOTH be given a "job description" so that it is clear what your individual responsibilities are.... BUT (at the same time) request that your parents do what they feel to be fair & equal for you both!
Talk to your parents about this sometime when your sister is not around. Do not start with blaming your parents or your sister. Just tell them how you feel, and explain that you think that you have to do more work than your sister. Your parents may not realize that they are being partial, or there could be a reason for them assigning more jobs to you. If you talk it over with your parents, then maybe you can reach a common ground and understanding. Just don't go into the conversation blaming--be open to hear their side, and they will be open to hear your side. Whatever comes of it, though, remember that learning to work hard will always help you in the future to become a strong individual! Good Luck!!
If what your saying is true yes they are being unfair. Chores should be evenly divided up. I am a parent. The first thing I believe is first the child should clean up after themselves. Then any other chores on top,of that they should be rewarded money or something else.
I believe your parents are taking advantage of you , probably because they think you do not argue back and probably do a better job.
I also believe your story has a other side like all,stories have when dealing with such matters as a disagreement between people. Maybe your sister has a mental problem or physical,ailment that keeps her from such tasks as her chores.
As for discussing issues with parents you have to approach them just right. Most parents don't like to be disagreed with so you have approach them like your not disagreeing.
I understand your parents and agree with not hanging out in your room. They are using chores to get you out of your room. I do the same thing. It's not healthy to hang out in your room too much. If you don't want chores outside go play outside or go hang out with friends.,
Hell yea. I feel like they are being totally unfair to you.
Your chore list is huge compared to your sister's. You should have a conversation with your parents. Be straight to the point, and to your sister too. I would be really angry.
Yes. Ask them to make it fair. She has one day of her chores, and you have one day of yours.