Best age difference in siblings?
My baby is 4 months old right now and I am already thinking about the next one. I've always wanted a large family (4 kids). I just loved being pregnant and she is so sweet. I can't wait to do it again. The rational side of me says this is crazy talk. The other half says yay a brother or sister and more love to go around. Has anyone had children really close together? What do you think is the best spacing between siblings? Advice/ personal experience welcome!
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Your are thinking so well for your children. My sisters and i are 5 years apart and it was horrible. We could never be in the same school we did not relate so well. There is so much of a gap that its no fun to play together at times. Since i am the eldest i really wished we were grouped closer in age. I am 24, Lorena is 19, Cindy is 13 and Isabella is six months of age. So you see its hard for me to relate to all of them since we are so separate in age. With this said i believe a year or two in age is enough. That way they can relate to one another. They can enjoy school together and understand each other a little better as they grow up. You are on the right track just see how you will manage and plan accordingly.
I only have 1 child, a 3 month old son. There are days I wish I were married, because I feel as though I want to get pregnant again soon and have more! I also want a large family (I want 6). But I will not get pregnant or involve myself in a sexual relationship until I find the right man for me and my son and am married and settled in a real family of my own. Anyway, that's a whole different topic! Yikes! :)
I think it's really up to you and your husband. If you feel as though that is what you really want, and you feel as though that is something you can handle with joy, then go for it! I think growing up with your siblings is wonderful, though I'm sure hard at times . . . But to me, I think it's worth it. :)
I have 2 children ages 9 and 6 and one on the way, my bf has a 14 year old. I personally believe that having my 2 3 years apart gave me the time one on one with each child to create that so important bond that we have. when my oldest started school i was able to give my 2nd child that one on one time he needed. Now with my #3 on the way all 3 kids are excited and eager to help with this one.
But as always everyone is different and have different situations making spacing children out an individual and personal decision on whats best.
*L*My baby is 3 months old and I was already thinking about #3 when he was six weeks old! His brother is 3 years old and in headstart. It is easier that he can walk on his own, doesn't need diapers, can entertain his brother, etc....but my last one I would like for them to be closer in age. My lil sis and I are 14 months apart and she's my best friend. I'm hoping for a girl and waiting until my baby turns one years old before I start trying for my third one.
we have two sons and it has been awhile but they are 4 years apart. that seems about right for a bunch of reasons. one the only time they were in school together was during elementary school in middle school and high school one was done before the other started. as far a college goes it gave you a little more time to save the thousands of dollars needed for this. little league, scouts and all were drawn out affairs but generally Only one child at a time made it easier.
i thought my kids were 2 close in age and there 2 years apart
my mom did the same thing, my older brother is 1 year older than me,it worked out really good, we would watch out for each other in elementary help each other with our homework and i always had someone to play with that share about the same interests.
MINE WERE 14 MONTHS APART! BUT ANYWHERE FROM YEAR AND 1/2 TO 2 1/2 YEARS I THINK ARE BEST! THEY LIKE TO DO SAME ACTIVITIES. SO THAT ONE DOESN'T FEEL LIKE BABY ACTIVITIES OR TRYING TO KEEP YOUNG ONE HAPPY/BUSY WHILE OLDER ONE PARTICIPATES IN ACTIVITES THE OTHER ONE CAN'T!