while i myself am a particularly passionate smoker at 2 packs a day, i step outside my apartment and wear a different shirt when i have a ciggarette then proceed to wash my hands and face before i make contact with her she is 25 months, i have personally adressed my girlfriend and a few of her friends about smoking in the apartment but they continue to do it, i tend to approach any situation in a calm manner, and i am not insisting that they go to the extremes that i do to avoid my daughters contact with drug, but i am getting close to my last nerve about this whole situation and dont want smoking around my daughter, im not quite sure how to go about enforcing my "rule" of no smoking around her, but any help would be greatly appreciated
Update:hey voice of common sense guy, brotha its not like im lying to my ******* daughter, i dont tell her i dont smoke dickweed, i keep her away from the second hand smoke and third hand, so shut your ******* goobery *** mouth ok, all i am trying to avoid is problems with her health, not her finding out i smoke you got it bud?thanks for the advice asshole
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You have to stand up and just say no, stay away from the kid while you are smoking.
If you want to end your habit, so that your child will have a parent later in their life I would read Allen Carr's book on the easy way to stop smoking. It transformed my life. If you look it up you will have done the greatest favor to your child you ever could.
Please do that and by the way, I am not judging you for smoking and I think the shirt and washing thing is great, but you do have the power to end the habit, you have just not learned how easy, enjoyable and fun it is to get off nicotene.
You will understand with one reading of the book.
I say this in all sincerity.
I care,
Your assistant
Stand up! Tell them, I've told you already to stop smoking in my apartment, My child is more important than your damn habit, If you can't respect my child, my home, or me...then get the hell out and don't come back! It's for your daughter's sake. She can't stand up for herself right now. You have to. I'm a mother of a 33 month old and a 4 month old. NO ONE smokes in my house! They know the rules and if they don't follow them, then out the door they go! I'm a smoker myself. I only smoke about half of what you do, but I do smoke and I keep it away from my kids.
Tell them that as her mother and it is your apartment that they either follow your rules or don't come over or inside. Sounds harsh but smoking around your daughter, especially when she is young can harm her (no matter what people tell you it is). You are doing the right thing by asking them not to but if they don't listen then you have to stand up and enforce the 'rule'. Good job though on the way you keep your daughter way from your smoking :)
I do NOT allow smoking in my house and I have no kids.
If people smoke in my house I ask them to go outside. If they do it more than once I ask them to leave and NOT come back. I have a lung problem and the slightest amount of cigarette smoke makes me cough for hours and my doctor keeps seeing this dark shade in my left lung and I know it's from second hand smoke.
Your daughter WILL have lung problems if these people smoke so it's imperative that you tell them to stop or get the heck out of YOUR house and do NOT put YOU or your daughter at risk.
They should have the sense to know anyway ... if not it is up to YOU to teach them. If they disrespect you THAT much then they are NO friend of yours or your daughter. Kick their tails OUT of your apartment.
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well i know she's your girlfriend, but you understand that your daughter is quite important. if this is her baby, tell her that if she doesnt mind your daughter getting second hand smoke then she can continue on and shorten her life. Or if this isnt her child, then tell her that at the moment, your daughter is the most important in your life so if she cant just do one thing for you, you should probably break up
if you dont want smoking around here then simply tell people that and if they dont listen tell them that they wont be allowed around her if they want to smoke....that might make them realize that they would rather smoke outside so they can still see the kid ya know? be firm or people will run over you
So you feel it's better to teach your kid that it's ok to sneak around? Lying is better than honesty? Yeah that'll go over like a fart in church.
My father smoked 3 packs a day, and our grandparents smoked around us too. My older sister and I grew up normal, healthy kids. We didn't have any breathing problems, asthma, or any of that bs that people think happens to kids with parents who smoke.
Paranoia is more harmful than someone smoking. Paranoid schizophrenics can seriously injure people at one quick snap.
She's your Girlfriend. Tell her to stop smoking in front of her child!
bad idea... kids shouldnt be around cigs
its bad for their health
theres
1st hand smoke-- the smoke you inhale
2nd hand smoke- the smoke you exhale and the smoke that comes out of your cig
3rd hand smoke- the smoke that gets in your hair and in your clothes while you smoke
these all three are deadly to your child!
Let alone seeing you smoke makes the risks higher of her smoking as an adult or in the future!!!
OK i have one question is your girlfriend the babies mom if she is than theirs not much you can do as for everyone else say if you cant respect my house rules than don't come around plain and simple remove all ashtrays from the apartment