My chemistry teacher is kind of creeping me out. He has a reputation for being really friendly and lenient with girls, especially cheerleaders and popular ones (lets them go to their lockers before the bell rings, gives them extra time to turn in make up work, ect). And he gives the girls hugs sometimes, although some of the flirty slutty girls like the attention and don't mind. But he's really friendly and funny and popular with his students too - like everybody loves him. Except me.
I come from a classroom really close to his, so I'm always first in his classroom even when I take my time. Sometimes he's in his office but sometime's he's at his desk at the front of the room and I can see him looking at me. He never says hi or anything when I come in, he just stares, only for like a few seconds but obviously enough for me to tell. Idk what he's staring at, I'm not super developed and most days I wear athletic shorts and t-shirts. I'm not ugly, just not very curvy or anything.
So yesterday we were watching a movie and my classroom was dark and he was at his desk and I had a question about our question worksheet we were doing along with the movie so I raised my hand. He came over and clapped his hand on my shoulder and kind of kneeled down and was like ,"Yes m'am?" And I ignored him but while I was asking my question he like was rubbing my shoulder. Squeezing it, like massaging it? It was creepy, super weird but it only lasted for like 10 seconds. Which seemed like a long time. And when he answered my question he stayed by my desk for a second and was like "are you okay?" And I was like, "Yeah, I'm fine." And he was like ,"You sure? Are you sick?" And I said ,"No, I'm fine." Then he said okay went back to his desk.
It was dark and nobody saw and it only lasted about 30 seconds.
Am I being paranoid? He's like 40 something. I'm 16. The whole thing just creeped me out and I don't know what to do. Am I overreacting?
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paranoid.
He may mean nothing by it or it might mean a lot. However he is courting disaster if he is just being friendly. I don't know about where you live, but here teachers are not allowed to hug students or touch them even the very little ones. It's in the school board rules. Find out what your school board rules are.
The next time he does something like that turn your head, look at his hand and say please take your hand off of my shoulder and then ask your question. Always be polite but let him know you don't appreciate his attentions. Talk to your parents about him and if he persists after you have let him know you don't like his attention then he should be reported to the principal and the school board
In no way is any of this your fault and if you feel uncomfortable about this teacher then watch it around him. Trust your instincts. Wait outside the class until everyone arrives and never be alone with him.
Does your school have more than one chemistry teacher? Maybe you should ask to change classes if you can.
Well that is kinda creepy & it would of bothered me to, but I very much doubt he is going to rape you or something. Most (and I say most because some don't) know they have there careers & whole lives to risk if they did something so stupid. He may of not meant anything by it or he may have. If he gives you a weird vibe then listen to yourself. Since you didn't say something to him this time he may try to do it again & more often. You need to let him know that you don't want him touching you. If he is smart & a decent guy then he will stop. Or you could just try to ignore him & get through the school year...?
well good luck :)
He needs to be reported to the school. A teacher should never touch a student like that and he knows the rules. He probably thought since it was dark he could get away with it. Don't let him honey.
You arent overreacting, just try and keep away from him a bit. dont be alone with him-try to arrange things so ur not alone with him. if you are in school too early go to the bathroom b4 his class starts. if he rubs your shoulder or does anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, just discreetly(dont make a scene of him) say to him 'do you mind not doing that' because some people are touchy feely types and they dont really realise that it would make you feel uncomfortable. If he doesnt leave you alone you should tell someone-ask the principal to speak to him about it and not to mention your name.
thats a tad frightening
maybe you should get one or two friends to go with you and make a complaint to the year level coordinator
i doubt they would fire him on the spot, they would most likely just keep "an eye on him" and if further complaints arised then they would probably take action
You aren't overreacting, even I think that's creepy. You should probably report him to the principal?
that's a bit creepy, just ignore it; but if something like that happens again, make sure to do something/tell someone about it!
good luck to you!
that is a little weird but im guessing that you are just overreacting.. but if he does it again then yeah, just tell somebody
:)
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