Ok, I am pregnant for the first time and scared to death of giving birth!!! I want to know how bad the pain is before you are allowed to get an epidural. I also want to know how long you have to wait to get an epidural. I want to hear from women that had it easy to women that had it really bad. I don't want to go into labor and freek out because I'm in so much pain, I just want to know what is "normal". My mother-in-law told me tonight that she just had cramps REALLY bad and then she got her epidural. She says that you don't really remember the pain, that thats part of life's way of making it eaiser.