i dated this guy for a year. we broke up in june because we were fighting a lot, and one night he went psycho and pushed me and grabbed my throat adn told me he wanted to kill me, because my FRIEND stole his liquor and gave me a drink, and i didnt know it was his. and because apparently i was being a *****. the next day he profusely apologized and said he was drunk, and was saying he only did it becuase he has so much built up anger. and dont get me wrong i wasnt the best girlfriend, becuase im only 18 years old, i dont think i took it as seriously as he did i wanted more of a casual relationship then he did, and i was rude to him sometimes but thats just unacceptable, and not the first time he pushed me before. when we werent fighting he was nice.
so then we didnt talk for about 2 weeks and i went to hang out with him just to clear things up. he was asign me to chill everyday for 2 weeks. we were with other friends drinking and we went out for a smoke and we were talking, and he said something about his ex and i mentioned a guy i used to talk to that he hates and he spit in my face.
the next day he came to my work with flowers and i threw them out.
and then he found out an old guy friend drove me home from work AFTER we broke up and were on a break and started texting me saying i was a whore, idiot, and will never amount to anythhing and that no one else will ever actualyl care about me.
after him saying all this (this was in july) i dont think i could ever get back with him.
he tried to hangout for all of august and i wouldnt, thinking of it makes me sick.
i went way to college this september and he has just been texting me again asking whats up and i just know i shouldnt even reply
what do you guys think
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Second question of yours I see lol
Whenever a realtionship becomes abbusive and im not only talking about physical abuse here, it is time to part ways. The first time he disrespected you, that should have been the end. I dont care if he is drunk, high or has anger issues like the Hulk, no man should ever raise his hands to a girl. In my opinion there is no other sign of disrespect that hurts more than when a person spits in face of another person. You seem like you have had some ruff relations, I think it is time you find someone who respects you.
You shouldn't have to think if you will take him back, you should know not to take him back. What happens in every relationship, and i speak from expirience, say that me and you were dating and you hate when I call you a *****, throw **** at you and just treat you like ****. Eventually you will get tired and dump me, right? But what happens is that the person who (me) is at fault usually comes back and says "i'm sorry, I will change..." and eventually you will forgive me and take me back (always happens). But, once I feel that I have you and I'm comfortable, I will begin to do the exact same things I was doing before and start treating you like ****.
If he hit you once, he will hit you again. If he called you a whore, he will call you a whore again. If he cheated on you before, he will cheat again, you get the point?
It's hard to change who we are for people, even the ones we love and the ones we promise that we will change. Sounds like he has major anger issues and that's not the type of guy that you should be proud to say he's your hubby.
You should ignore all his calls and messages, I'm sure he will get the point eventually. I hope you find what you deserve.
i'm bowled over you've been regardless of this jerk. It fairly sounds to me like you do not take crap from each person. sounds like you stick up for your self, and that is a few thing you ought to continually do. i'm satisfied you're vendictive reason in some extraordinary way it shows that you've a intense self-worth. even if you've been by hell, you've your priorities immediately. Now as far because the relationship, you ought to make it clean to him that you don't desire to be with him anymore. you ought to placed a restraining order on him and an order of protection for your self. (under no circumstances had to attempt this myself so i do not recognize in the experience that they're a similar component.) you ought to spilt at him too, yet i'd shop alot of siliva and phlem too. Then spit all of it over his face. Ewwwwww !! No...., yet for authentic, i don't think of there's a lot you ought to do. walking away may be the perfect component. If he is going by existence in the incorrect direction, stay faraway from him and fairly all those who is going by there too. walk away with your head fairly intense, and do not ever enable each person placed you down lower back.
this is what alot of abusive guys do, they do something bad ,then say sorry. it just keeps getting worse. he may even attempt to kill u or seriously hurt u if u keep contact with him. avoid him at all costs