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Keep doing your thing!

If thats what it takes, I would never do it, but I support you doing it

Dear Harold R,

Honesty is the best policy regardless of what you hear, what you see or what you read it will not change the fact that it is still the truth. Having said all of that I will answer your question but i doubt you will like the answer.

Any relationship with a Father is better than none, you both have your own opinions about each other and that is OK for you to disagree. But what I see in your short story is a very selfish young man who is bent on doing it all his own way, and you need to know early in life that "IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU" It is about love and I only wish I had that little bit of yor fathers loves that you seem to take for granted.

My birth father denied I was his son up until the day he died over 5 years ago now. I never got to see him even at his funeral because I was not allowed to go to it. I regret the day but there is nothing I can do about it now.

You need to find common ground with your father and start treating him with the respect that he deserves as being your Father. He gives you everything but you give him nothing in return and that is purely selfish and immature as well. It is too bad when a Son and Father can not get along. It really saddens me and I wish you all the best to reconcile to each other before it is too late, because in the end all of those designer clothes and those lavish vacations will get you no real peace or happiness only a hardened heart and shallowness.

I truly feel sorry for you, you are correct it does take two to make any relationship, but somewhere along the line one has to be be willing to give up things in order to gain a lasting and true relationship as Father/Son. I would have given anything if my Birth father had loved me even one iota.

May god Bless! I am not sorry for telling you this I just hope it makes a difference in your relationship with your father after all you only have one.

My father should might as well take God's job. He's a religious freak. I don't follow his standards and he feels it ruins our familial unity. Oh well. We don't talk, nor do we play sports or anything. I'm pretty much isolated in my room until he's out the house. Then I can go hang with my friends who he also doesn't approve of. =]

I'm a senior this year and I'll be graduating in 8 months. Hopefully I end up going to college to UCSB, which is like, 8 hours away from home, meaning I won't have to come home every weekend. :)

I understand where you're coming from. I left home when I was 16. Went to live at a friend's house til after graduation. Then I lived in the Navy.

Just one small word of advice: be careful that the words you speak are soft and sweet... because you never know which you might have to eat.

{ Or which things you say you may come to regret. Me leaving was NOT a pleasant occasion... for anyone. I said some terrible things to people I loved. It left a scar which never went away. But I visited my mom and my dad's graves (when I was about 45 years old) and asked for their forgiveness, and offered them mine. None of us handled the situations well back then. }

Best wishes for your success.

Oh, give it time. A LOT of 16 year olds have bad relationships with one or both parents.

There were times when I wouldn't talk to my dad (or only on a surface level), but after my teens (especially due to moving away from home so I was no longer under his control), our relationship improved. It never became idylic, but we became friendly.

He died a few years ago (cancer) and I miss him sometimes. Not as much as my sister does tho', but she was always "daddy's little girl".

Fortunately I had a great relationship with my dad. He was the last one to find out I was gay, but although it wasn't easy for him, he accepted and loved me just the same, but then again, I never gave him any reason not to be proud of me.

I get along pretty good with my father. I like him a lot, and he says I'm more like him than any of my siblings.

I think there's all kinds of relationships in life, regardless of whether you're straight or gay.

I have a great relationship with my dad. We joke, we do stuff together and we share our thoughts and problems too... I admit sometimes we quarrel and turn sour-face, but tell me, who haven't?

I went to your phase before, even to a point I don't care if he exist or not. But eventually I put down my defenses and discover that it's just a father-son ego thingy~

I love my dad! Muahaha~!!!

funny, i hated my dad @ that age too, but now that i don't live with him we get along great, teens are just hard to deal with in general i know now first hand with my little sister who is 16, now i know what i put my father through, anyhow your relationship will get better as you get older. also i had no relationship with my father until i came out to him now i can tell him anything.

I agree, it is in no way an undemanding determination to tell your parent's you're gay. i grow to be fortunate, my mothers and fathers are incredibly open minded, yet no longer each and every physique's are. for my area, i could seem in this time as an danger. It sounds a splash weird and wonderful, yet are you one hundred% particular that your dad does not comprehend already, and had to grant you the prospect to tell him? in case you may have confidence your mum, perhaps you will possibly be able to desire to 'run it previous her', something like 'mom... i will in no way supply you a daughter in-regulation' (ok, you will detect a greater diffused way, yet perhaps you should use her as a gage on what your dad's reaction would be, after all, she knows your dad greater effective than everybody else does! it is maximum parent's sole want to be sure that their toddler is chuffed. I admit, that it does not consistently artwork out that way, in spite of if it does countless the time. positioned your self of their shoes, how could you like your 'toddler' to return out to you? perhaps it is going to easily ensue, and in case you detect somebody, you may introduce them on your dad as your 'buddy'?. it is hard, i comprehend, yet you will locate the potential from someplace. Use your pals as help (in the event that they comprehend) incase issues do no longer flow in accordance to plot. If it makes it to any extent further handy, I knew a lad who's brother grow to be interior the army, and the common 'homophobe', yet as quickly as his brother instructed him he grow to be gay, it grow to be like a mild switched on, and that they are even nearer now than they have been before! i comprehend that suitable now, it style of feels like the main puzzling element interior the international, yet sooner or later I promise, you will choose you probably did it quicker! good success with it, and that i'm hoping that each and everything works out for the main suitable . Take care :D.

YUP! You go boy =P

Well i do love my father as a father and son in general. But my father live in the other side of the world but when i was little i have a lot of memories with him :)