My grandmother on my fathers side vastly favours my four cousins. My older brother and I grew up in another province and, as kids, we rarely saw her. Every time she would visit somewhere, she'd be sure to bring something back for my four cousins, while my brother and I never even got calls on our birthdays! Maybe I'm just being selfish and overreacting to this, but it really annoys me that she dotes on her other four grandchildren, but she can't even remember out birthdays (maybe she just couldn't be bothered to call, I do not know, but you'd think she'd mention something about my brother graduating, at least...) all am saying is it really that hard to pick up a phone and dial a number?
Is this favouritism? Am I just overreacting?
Thank you for reading, and please, no rude answers.
Answers & Comments
This is favoritism, you're correct, but at the same time it may be something to just let go. She's closer to your cousins, and probably doesn't know much about you, especially if your dad doesn't tell her much about what's going on in your guys' lives, or that you two feel a bit hurt about being excluded, and would enjoy just a phone call. My mom is already favoring my son over my other daughter and my nephew and nieces. He's disabled, so she believes he needs more attention, and my daughter is only 1 1/2 and noticing when grandma is over she doesn't get much attention except for a scolding, as such, she hates grandma. -.- I'm working through my own way to stop this favoritism, but I'd suggest your dad talk to your grandma about this, to at least ask for her to call you guys once in awhile, and that you'd like to get to know her more. Best of luck to you.
your right sorry to say! this actually happen to me and my brother growing up my grandmother on my mother side could careless about me and my brother but she LOVED MY OLDEST brother and YOUNGER brother and all my cousins but me and my brother were like NOTHING and it hurt like crazy and as a little kid i would bring it to my moms attention and should would ignore me until i got holder and she said your right eddy "i believe its because she hated your father" and i look just like him but hey LIFE IS LIFE i got over it and stopped caring i even heard her admit it before and my mom FLIPPED and told her that wasnt right from that moment on i knew all I NEEDED was my MOM!!!! not my grandma sad to say when she passed away i was never really sad because she didnt bother to build a relationship with me or pick up a phone a say happy birthday but like i said LIFE IS LIFE it hurts and im sorry but you will be FINE i promise it only makes you stronger i promise....