My mom doesn't understand me in general. She trys and focuses my whole life on school and lacrosse that it makes it no fun. Now when I really want something (I really want to go to Chile to visit 6 of my great friends) and I was trying to talk to her about it all she did was bring up school and homework and I tried to stay cool cause I really wanted to go and I did, but she never sees when i am trying to be good cause I am not on the top of her radar. She claims that I am not doing anything, but really I have kept my room clean, when she asks for my phone after school I don't struggle to give it to her (she doesn't like me using it during homework), and I haven't been causing trouble since I first brought it up. How can I get her to understand me and how bad I really want this? I made a powerpoint to fully express it and started crying because it ment so much and all she did was call it lies. Can someone please help!
Update:I am 15 years old, already traveled alone in the country, I have a boyfriend so this is not a love experience, and my school just received 6 exchange students from Chile that my mom knows. Every time I bring up going to visit them, I start crying because it means so much to me. One of her friends said, "Oh you should let her go because it is a first hand learning experience and it is a great experience period." But she is not convinced. She can't see how bad I want to go no matter how oblivious I make it.
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i can understand why your mom does not want you to go to another country by yourself
i can hardly stand my kids going to another city
your mom is responsible for you until you are 18
maybe you can ask her to go with you ?
when you are 18, you can travel
save up some money so you can but a ticket and pay your way there and get a passport
all of these things are expensive
peace
"I really want to go to Chile to visit 6 of my great friends" <---
Ok the first thing I thought when I read that, was how old are you>?
If I was your parent, to me the idea of a child going off to Chile to visit some "great friends" sounds like an orgy party is about to happen. And really, a girl going away normally gets into some kind of love experience.
If you want your Mum to feel better about you going, maybe you should think about taking someone with you she can trust. On the end of the day, I don't think your mum thinks bad of you. She is only protective of you and your carrier.
On top of that, forcing your children to go to school, study or play some type of sport is also a mistake in my opinion.
Yea I feel the same way too
No matter how hard I try they just yell they're pointless crude people that can rot in hell
Maintain good grades and always participate when teachers ask questions. Maybe those teachers see improvement and yu get good responses in report cards. If no one will listen to you maybe if she heard it from an adult she'll understand. Same thing for lacrosse, it seems that coaches and parents are always talking about their son or daughter when kids do very well in sports. When your mom heres all there things from adults and such she'll reconsider your trip to Chile
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I suppose that being know-how in the direction of the children does certainly hold a healthful courting amongst each side. My mother and father are very similar to this. Yet, they draw the road. I do not wish to mention they have been strict on me wholly, however they definite knew what was once correct and improper and taught me tons of it. Violet
hmm well do you have a dad if you do tell him about all this, if you dont then you should go to a couseller or someone that can make your parents understand you, i mean there is nothing wrong if you have been all your life good then i dont see why you cant have some time of your own
You need too stand up for yourself . Let your mom know how badly u really want to go. If that don't work THAN YELLL UNTIL IT DOES