Some few weeks back, I met this young banker at a pub and we had a fine conversation on banking and many other issues of interest. He turned out to be a very smart guy and I liked his personality.

Though we did not spend more than an hour talking, by the time we parted ways, we had become like people who had known each other for many years. We exchanged phone numbers and even scheduled to have lunch some days later. Prior to all other engagements, we'd been calling and sending text messages to each other's cell phone.

Unfotunately, on the day we were supposed to have lunch, he did not show up. I called him and he explained that he got caught up in a meeting and that he got himself some Chinese to eat afterwards. The explanation was reasonable enough so I did not get upset.

Now all of a sudden, he isn't communicating with me anymore. No text messages, no calls. Each time I call him, it's like I'm forcing him to talk to me and when I request for a meeting, he tells me he's meeting with clients.

I have done nor said anything to upset him. He's making feel bad and guilty about something I'm not aware of. I've only wanted to be his friend and he's aware of that. I can't tell why he's behaving the way he is. I know he has a three month old son with a woman he once had a fling with and he spends time with the baby as often as possible. He's not married to nor co-habiting with the said woman but he supports her financially because of the child. Right now, I have just withdrawn and my friends are advising me to forget about him becasue I can't force him to be my friend if he doesn't want to. Thing is, I've grown so fond of him and it hurts me that he's treating me this way.

I miss my friend but I don't know what to do or how I should feel. I'm so fond of him.