I'm under 14, and my sister is in collge. We brought her 2 days before my b-day. I miss her so much! I'm closer then her then I am with my mom! She was my mom for 6 years, since she had to walk me to school or anything because my mom USED to drink alot. She doesn't say she loves me, but she shows it by always being there for me and sticking up for me. My mom in 2004 was almost dieing from drinking and my sister said if anything happens she will take me when she's 18 (she is already know) and be my parent! Then when we saw each other for the last time, she gave me the very first hug she ever gave me. And she cried when i asked for it, she has cried at the most 10 times in her life! (I have asked before for a hug but she never did) and I'm crying now too! But on the day I was crying all day, and night! I miss her so much and need her too... This is my first year of middle school, first time having a real bf, first time breaking up with him, first "it", I just need her so that I could talk to somebody!
I miss her so much and she doesn't know! I just finished txting her (can't talk or she would hear me crying...) sorry it's so long I just miss her! I know it's a good think that's she's doing but I miss her!
How do I stop myself from crying when I think of her
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What you are feeling is NORMAL. I promise. you have a bond with your sister (a great one), and it will take some adjusting to get used to your sister not being there. But guess what? You can still talk with her and will be able to see her!
here are some tips for you:
- write her letters, as many letters as you want. all college students LOVE mail (trust me, I know, I was one not too long ago). you also will probably get mail from her when she has time too
- send her care packages occassionally.
- the internet is amazing. get a skype account, and a webcam. same for your sister. you guys can video chat for free. Also email each other!
- put your favorite picture of the 2 of you, and post it right by your bed, on your wall. that way she can bless you in your dreams.
- you can put together a scrapbook or a photo album of memories of the 2 of you. and when you are feeling sad, look through it, and it may make you feel better
It will take some getting used to. But don't forget, your sister will still come home for holidays, at least! Your sister probably misses you as much as you miss her. But she feels like she has to be strong for you. Don't forget that.
Hang in there hun. You can get through it!
You should keep talking to your sister and keep the communication open. Tell her how you feel and perhaps the two of you could work out more frequent visits and spending time together. Maybe try reaching out to another family member or even a school counselor and talking about how you feel. It's better to let it out than to keep it bottled inside.
It sounds to me like both of you growing up to be good adults. Families are kind of funny in their own little ways, I know mine is. Try not to focus on that one point in both of your lives, but the many great times you had together and the next time you see each other it will be so great. No matter what she will always be with you.
so send her an email or write a letter....you know perhaps it is time for you to find some good activies to get involved in too keep busy ....how about taking some kind of music lessons ,vocal lessons ,art classes perhps,,drama class or some thing your most interested in..hope this helps..good luck.. how about think about holiday christmas shopping or making holiday hand made crafts to keep you as busy as a beaver....
well you should still be happy to have your parents. My best friend was in a fire accident his house burnt down his parents brothers and sisters were burnt to death and now his grand parents are taking care of him. if my bestii can make it you can make it!