NOt man bashing or anything but I have noticed that men are territorial & jealous. It doesnt matter race, culture, nor age its a common factor among men. So dating this guy for awhile & he has a a healthy social life more girls sniffing around him than I would like BUT I have not exactly seen anything too inappropriate so try not too get jealous. Plus I;m not sure how to articulate that Im uncomfortable with him being so close to other females. There iS one female That I secretly feel a lil threatened by b/c they seem so comfortable with each other, I kinda wonder WHY he is not nor have dated her.
However he is very territorial & slightly jelaous like most men. Its the point where I dont even want to mention other men name just to avoid getting the 3rd degree. Im aware that most men act like this. Im curiouas the next time he catch himself questioning me& acting jealous about guys how to flip it back on him & let him know how I REALLY feel about his female friends
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This is not about double standards. Fortunately, NOT all men are jealous and territorial, only the insecure ones. Many boyfriends don't care about their women hanging out with other guys, because they just know that nothing will happen (=Trust; it's real). This is about a highly insecure boyfriend you have.
One thing I've noticed over the years is that sometimes, when one partner freaks out about the other partner talking to other people, and is generally afraid that their partner will cheat FOR NO REASON, it's often because they feel like they are close to cheating themselves, and start feeling insecure about the relationship. So your guy may be giving you the 3rd degree because he is close to cheating. He thinks, if he feels like cheating, maybe you do too!
Talk to him. If he respects you, he will stay further away from these women. Don't play games, just let him know seriously how you feel. Say that you don't like him being so close to other women. You can make a deal, that neither of you goes out with a person of the opposite sex alone, for instance.
It sounds like you really need to air out these concerns with your significant other. Let him know that you are not comfortable with all his female friends, just as he is not comfortable with your male friends. He has to respect this if he respects your relationship. Otherwise tell him not to question him about your male friends. Whats good for the goose is good for the gander.
Chicks invented the double standard.
just like most women, you are nuts...no one will take you seriuosly until you complete phyciactric treatments...until then you will be continually used as a receptical for man juice