Im being bullied at school and it doesn't help that i already have enough stress. My parents just got a divorce as well. They bully about my appearance. They say i look like a micheal jackson. Im a girl, and ive been put into the hospital for anorexia. as you can see my appearance is something that im sensitive about. Im not anorexic anymore. My makeup usually looks bad, but its not my fault. I cant even look myself in the mirror in public. I know this sounds so stupid but im sooo depressed about everything. I know you'll suggest consoling and im considering it. My parents don't understand, all they care about is my grades. I hate going to school, and i cry at night. No one knows that tho. I dont know what to do. Its a group of guys that make fun of me.
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Yes, you should try to get counseling. You need authority to make those boys do want you want them to do--that is, leave you alone. Adults have authority. Get adults and let them use their adult powers to blast the bullies into outer space.
Try not to be self-conscious about your appearance. It doesn't matter as much as it seems to. Heck, I'm probably uglier than you. And I'm proud of it. Plus, Michael Jackson (rest in peace) was extremely talented and awesome; it's just some people who can't acknowledge how talented he was, or use his appearance as an excuse to forget about his talent. So it's not that bad.
Make your parents understand. Parents should be supportive. They should be strong and sure, like stone columns. And they should understand that if bullies are a problem for you, you can't exactly focus on your school work. Whatever you do, keep going to school, and let people know that you need help.
Well you could go to you're schools counselor im sure they could help. I'm a pretty rad make up artist I could possibly teach you how to wear makeup. Those guys are jerks don't listen to them. I myself growing up was bullied a lot I was so alone I didn't even have a best friend till I was a freshman in highschool and I'm 20 now. Try considering asking your parents if you can do homeschooling or getting transfered to another school. Really tell your parents how you feel and your struggles that your going through. It's not healthy to hide that. Well just to let you know I stayed ugly for a good 16 years I used to look like edward scissorhands yikes I would of rather looked like micheal jackson that look like edward scissorhands and people would attack me and me bleed. Sleep helped me out alot and listening to some good music gives you something to do to take your mind off of these things try to keep yourself occupied with a good video game or a movie every day in the mean time . Your parents need to understand that your a human and your not made of stone they really need to comprehend you your parents are supposed to help you not make things worse for you.
Learn to put your makeup on right. And make it look like the day time makeup should look. There is a difference for night time usage.
You need to concentrate on your schooling. It's what helps you get a good step in life, really it is.
You have to try and understand what your parents are going through right now. Sometimes, kids have to take the backseat to the stress of a divorce, even though it involves them too. But a divorce is like a death to a couple who were truly in love.
Why not go talk to your school counselor and they can help you feel better or they can try to.
Do you have anyone in your family or friends that could teach you how to apply make-up? If so, ask them to teach you and help you. If not, try a department store. You know the make-up counters inside of Dillard's, JC Penney, and the like. Go talk to one of the girls there, tell her your predicament. Tell her, you need help, and you cannot afford to buy anything at the moment. I am sure someone would be more than happy to help you.
What about your wardrobe? You can get some great clothes on the cheap at your local thrift store. My girls love to go there, it started several years ago when they were looking for cheap clothes to make Halloween costumes. When they saw the condition of the clothes and the price, My life so much easier and cheaper! Try swinging by one of those places so you can get some semi-new clothes without spending a lot of money.
Try praying and reading your bible, It helps! It really does!
it's real easy to so ignore them. yet much harder to to so. Kids have it so hard these days. You should know the bodies they show on tv the ideal is only healthy and attainable by 2% of the population. If you can pretend it doesn't bother you and even laugh with them they will most likly move their target to someone else. They sad thing is that kids feel the need to put others down only to make themselves feel better about themselves. You should know there is a could chance they have as little self confidence as it sound that you have or maybe less. Life is to short to care about secondary and high school. The one thing your parents are right about is if you keep up your grades it is your ticket out of it all.
You know you just have to stay positive, high school doesnt last forever. It may seem like it, but itll come to an end one day. you may feel alone but there is sooo sooo many kids going through what you are. Maybe you could ask them to do online public highschool, you still get your diploma, take normal classes and everything. connectionsacademy.com is one. and its free. but if they dont let you, stay strong! Keep moving forward. When you fall down, get back up again :)
ps: most of the guys making fun you i can almost guarantee i 10 yrs they'll be those deadbeat jocks or whatever haha :)
Being bullied changes everything. Most schools have Zer0 tolerance towards bullying but that does not stop your fear of it escalating. See your guidance counselor and be certain they communicate with your parents. In the beginning of my 11th grade I took the GED, passed and gladly left school behind but I sometimes wish I hadn't. Private school is a very expensive alternative.
im so sorry. you should just play it off and make whatever they say to you, feel the opposite.
like if they call u michael jackson, just walk up grab ur crotch and kick out and spin around and go "ooh ooh, dont be jealous that i am famous." and practice doing the moonwalk ;).
the more you take it personally and the more bad you feel about it, the more the kids will tease you because kids are so mean.
you need to talk to a counselor. If not at school, ask a pastor, an adult friend, or call social service for help. Also look online for forums that may be of assistance. Just always remember. This is only a small period of your life. IT WILL GET BETTER. they only do this because of lack in there own confidence. Please, don't give up. find help.
you're just going through your awkward stage. EVERYONE goes through it. everyone gets made fun of to and it reaaaaally hurts and sometimes may scar you for a long time. just understand that things will get better and amazing as time goes on. you're just evolving into a beautiful young woman. i suggest you speak to a counselor at school or a trusted friend. and as for those boys, you'll have the last laugh when you're looking gorgeous in a couple of years and they ALL want to date you. i promise it will happen.. and its amazing.
but definitely seek a counselor to talk to or a family member that you trust.