No, Im not a freshman, Im going into grade 11. On Tuesday Im going back to the high school I left in grade 9 because I was extremely depressed and self harming, so I had to go to a psych hospital. Ive been doing home schooling for the last year and a half, but I decided that I want to go back this year.
Im so nervous. I have a few people that I stayed friends with that go there and my best friend goes there as well, but Im still freaking out. Everyone knows why I left because a friend of mine spread it around when I told them and I know a lot of people were calling me "crazy" behind my back after they found out. I know people will AT LEAST be talking about me behind my back and there is a pretty good chance a group of kids (who used to bully me back in middle school) are going to be making comments to me about it.
Not only that, but things have changed between my best friend and I since grade 9. We both have boyfriends that weve been with for over a year - but her boyfriend goes to our school and mine doesnt. Shes going to be having lunch alone with her boyfriend 2 times a week and apparently shes sharing a locker with him, so shes going to be hanging out at his locker all the time between classes, along with his group of friends (who I dont know).
My best friend knows how nervous I am, so I know shes going to be there for me and we are going together the first day, but Im still really nervous. I know Im going to be freaking out all weekend.
Any advice? Or just some comforting words?
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Don't worry! People don't think about you as much as you think they do. The world doesn't revolve around you :) They aren't going to say, "Hey, isn't that that one girl who left back in august of freshman year and homeschooled? I'm going to laugh at her, because I have nothing else to do.".
Don't worry. You'll make new friends, hopefully stay friends with your old friends, and I highly doubt people are going to talk behind your back. I'm pretty sure theyre over it :)
Well, there's this girl at my school who I was friends with but not all that close. Then she went suicidal and depressed and started getting violent with people at school (she said to me quote "It's people like you make me want to die, I'll never be as gorgeous as you" and then punched me in the gut...scary right?). She attempted suicide several times and got sent to a psych hospital and has being doing home school. This year, she came back, and she's still not...herself. A lot of people don't know what to think about her...everybody's just ignoring her. I tried talking to her but she told me to go away, at least I wasn't being like everybody else and acting like she doesn't exist.
I feel really bad for this girl, but I think you'll be fine. You have your friends and people will see that you've recovered and just hold your head up. Good luck <3
I know what it's like, I had sever anxiety and dropped out of school and ended up going to the hospital for an eating disorder and although I don't go to a normal school, I go to a school for teen moms (I got pregnant just before leaving the hospital program) it's extremely nerve racking knowing that I have to hide part of my past (and present, because it's still difficult for me) but it's bee two days and I got very scared and anxious but it;s actually pretty fun, I met people we got along, at lunch time they just go out side and smoke, I don't smoke but I was relifed to not be the only on not eating.
Just try and relax, it will be very hard but as the day goes it'll be easier.
Good luck!
Your a very pretty girl, expect the hate. I can tell you not to care about what people think, but that's the worst advice. Of course your going to care. All I can say is try. There's bound to be a group of people who will be your friends. Small talk can start a lot of new beginnings.
You will be totally fine. Just walk in there with your head held high. Don't be afraid to approach people that look friendly, and just have total confidence. Everything will fall in the place during the first week and before you know it you will love high school again. These next two years will be two of the best years of your life and live them to the fullest!
You need to learn to block out what others say and relax and go with the flow
There will always be people who dislike you, try and talk you down, talk behind your back and say hurtful things.
Try and think positive and look at the positives of this situation.
Just stay strong and ignore the commenting. Don't let them get to you. How is a few snickers going to hurt you?
Everyone one feels that way, I'm sure you'll be fine
There's plenty of people in high school. Don't worry :)
So you're a CRAZY chick eh?.......At least that is what they will be saying right......I am going to post this and go get something I wrote to someone who was self harming.........
Here it is"
To start off kiddo, you are young....(I assume teenage)......as you age you will learn how to control this frustration better.....IF AS THE ADDICTION COUNSELOR SAID....you start some therapy NOW.....Therapy does not always mean going to a psychologist or psychiatrist....there is also self therapy which you are starting by realizing that you have a behavior you want to change...........one reason your are doing this is you need an outlet for your frustration. At your age you have very little "power or authority", me if I am mad at someone (I am sitting in my own business right now), I can tell them to screw off and get lost.......I realize you cannot..........I would recommend that you find a useful extra curricular activity that you enjoy.......it will help.....having an outlet for pent up frustration is always good! As for your mom it is sad that she doesn't understand your feelings......I have been some amazing places and met many different kinds of people.....(you would not believe who I know personally......lol)......and I have learned that we ALL have some sort of something that is not quite right with us........what is normal anyway? People have been trying to answer that question for years...........since it means so many different things to so many people.......heck in afghanistan you would be married to a 50 yr old man and pregnant by now........its normal there........as I said I know some people.......Google Mark Safarik.........I just spoke with him on friday...........He spent years studying why criminals do what they do...........My friend is an addiction counselor also, he got there after conquering his crack cocaine habit...........Your mom for example has a problem with denial.......she feels that somehow she is not susceptible to the same things in her life that everyone else is........that can also be a disorder..........you know we have caught around my area the following examples of people who thought that way and allowed their problems to grow so big that they ended up imprisoned for them.......a kindergarten teacher with crack cocaine in the classroom, ministers of the church having sex with young children, a prosecuting attorney accepting bribes to pay for a drug habit, and multiple town treasurers embezzling money to gamble at the local casinos...........I forgot a undercover narcotics agent abusing her authority to harass a love interest..........and that is just recently.........some people say I am wrong because (I am a single dad with a lot of kids) I tell my kids (the ones 13 and older) anything they want to know about anything; people in my family say oh you should shield them from knowledge about drugs, sex, crime, etc.........but my kids are well adjusted......they stay out of trouble, no ones ever been arrested, or pregnant, or suspended from school...........The simple rule is if you have a problem, you tell the truth and come to me first..........If I hear it from you first, you'll never be in trouble with me..........I will tell you it works!............I put all this in here because I know you really want to talk to your mom (and both your life and hers would improve with better communication between the two of you!) and are just very scared..........but I am sure above all your mom does love you (and you love her), and really wants the best for you, she just NEEDS to understand that you want and need her help for a REAL problem.........!!!!!! Let her read your post and this answer, it may just start the long conversation you need with her............If you don't try you'll never know.........she should be the one you go to first, not last..........and I am sure she would really want it that way! Good Luck!
PS. At 13 I had to take anger management myself...........I did not self harm......I hurt others when they made me angry...........and it made me feel better so I understand how it feels to have that anger be "spent"..........Take care................
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This applies to you in the fact as I said......we all have something that is not "normal" to someone else.....some of those girls will become crack hoes or alcoholics, gambling addicts, one may become so depressed she commits suicide in the future.......In my graduating class you wouldn't believe what has happened to people......By the way the bully I had to deal with just plead guilty to class 1 felony charges (4 to 15 years in the state pen) for burglary....He got 12.......by pleading guilty he got class X charges dropped (6 to 30 years).........I wonder how much of a bully he is gonna be there? LOL Good Luck in school!