Well it started a year ago i fell so in love with this guy and he loved me to. We went out for 8 months when i knew i wanted to take it to the next step and have sex. I know i am abit young 15 but was 14 when had sex and him 16 and now 17. And we still love each other and please dont im to young to know it anything like that. One day i got a call from his mum and he was in the hospital for a drug overdose. I knew he had a problem and we were dealing with it anyway about 3 weeks we broke up ( i broke it off it was not him hes so sweet) cause im scared of losing him so much but we still loved each other. I found out i was pregnant a week ago but was waiting for the right time to tell. I was on birthcontrol but found out a few days ago im 6 weeks. Yesterday he died what do i about everything im hurting so much inside and can not stop crying. Money os not a problem as we both came from wealthy familys. I miss him so much
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Wow, this is a heartache story. Not that it is a story, it's a chapter of your life. This is bad, I'm sorry for your loss but happy for your gain.
I can only imagine how you feel. I understand you broke up with him to protect your feelings but at the end of the day, if you love him, you love him, being together or apart makes no difference, the feelings are there and probably always will be. Unfortunately, its going to take a long time to heal the pain, it will never go away but you will learn how to cope with it giving it plenty of time. If you need to talk to people, then talk to people, people have many different thoughts, opinions and perspectives and maybe they could help along your journey of recovery.
I always joked with my fiance to freeze his sperm incase he died then I could still have his babies but then went to the discussion that it would be weird to get pregnant with their sperm when they aren't alive. Putting our joke aside, I know this is a major in your life.
Are you wondering weather to keep the baby or not and how you will cope? I think personally you should keep it, no doubt he would have wanted you to aswell. However, you must weigh things up in your own mind, you have gone through a traumatic experience AND your pregnant. Its going to be a harder, longer recovery being pregnant and looking at that baby everyday, watching it grow up and having similarities that remind you of him. It will be painful, but depending on how your mind works, you could turn it into positives, like remembering all the good times together, how he made you feel. Don't be a victim of remembering more bad than good, positive thoughts will help you get through this, I understand its hard, but everything happens for a reason.
I'm sorry and I wish you all the best x
P.S There is no scientific evidence that proves that the male's sperm that fertilized the egg will damage the development of the embryo, only if he was a regular drug user would it have a general knock on effect. However, if the mother was to do drugs throughout her pregnancy then yes its likely to damage the development. If you do drugs its harder to conceive.
He obviously had a lot of problems and he did not love you as much as you loved him or else he would have stuck around for you. I'm sorry hon, but you have a baby now to worry about and not yourself. So in many ways you will have him with you always. I hope you keep the baby!
Good luck.
oh my god im so sorry....listen i had a fiance die on me to cocain actually....crushed me for years... we had a huge fight that night we had lived together lost our apartment and h didnt want to clean up i went one way he went his and he partied partied partied ... i did too but was the working one who paid the bills, got sick of that crap cut all monies off from him got him a great job and was functioning working, he wasnt in love with the job but making killer money... his first big check 3 g's he blew on a drug buy, got pulled over for turning on a supposed do not turn street and ran from the cops jumped in the ocean during a noreaster in the freezing winter ]. anyway 3 weeks later they pulled the plug... i swear to god i felt him die..we were best friends and planned on spending the rest of our lives together...or getting married..,anyway mamma it hurt so bad for years i couldnt get over it mainly because of that awful fight we had and what we said to eachother... look drugs suck and all my friends died from drugs and fed up accidents... you have this guys baby inside you just hope its not retarded from the junk he had in his system......maybe its best since your so young to terminate this pregnancy....go talk to your parents you have toooo!!!!.. money or no money your life is ahead of you.... i woulld tell your mom and see what she thinks sounds like ya have college ahead of ya or had...youre gonna regret this . you have to tell your parents and tell them tonight theres not much time left sweety ...you can talk to your parents about anything believe it or not....it is just you in the long run... your life, no more dating no more nothing what a tragedy...17 and pregnant.... better tell mom and dad do you know how much kids cost? im a mother and this story touched my heart and made me angry all in the same shot....use your brain
maybe you all should just go terapie ?