First of all I'm not trying to brag anything, but I'm quite popular in High School and I'm a Senior now. The girls at my school think I'm very cute and friendly and funny too. But the guys in my school think I'm stupid and "gay" for some reason. The girls think I'm a big flirt too! But the guys think I sound gay and I act gay. WTF is up with that? I really feel like they're very jealous of me even though I think I'm just very stylish and friendly. I was born in Asia and we don't think immediately if a guy is gay or not where I was from. Well I wasn't born here in America and some of my friends/classmates criticize me of being gay because I wear tight clothes and sometimes tight jeans. It really irritates me because they're so immature and they make everything a big deal. And if they see me wearing they don't like or they think that it's gay, they would tell me like "Hey *name*, wtf are you wearing dude? You look so gay You ******!" Then I'd tell them "Okay dude yeah..." What is up with the American kids these days? They make everything a big deal and they tell their opinion of what you're wearing even though you didn't ask them for an opinion. I'm not the type who follows everyone and try ti fit in just to be like by everyone and to be "cool." I'm really a nice guy and a friendly guy, but I don't think I deserve this kind of treatment. They say the "worst comment" about me too and all stuff that makes me feel very bad and makes my day bad too. I don't tell my parents or my relatives about it because yea...
And by the way, one of my friends asked me who I'm going to take on our next school dance. And I said "I don't know." But I don't want to take anyone at the dance because "grinding" is not really my thing and letting a someone feel my "thing" feels embarrassing and I feel like it should be a privacy or something. So I'm guessing if I don't " grind" with anyone at our next dance. My friends and the people at my school will think "I'm gay" How do I know? Because they think everything is "gay" when yea....idk it's hard to explain, but I think my school has the most immature students in Cali.
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i grew up in cali too...it sucks...just wait until you get to college and you won't have to deal with that sh*t
Immature High School Students
Don't let it get to you. I have been in a similar situation. Senior year goes by really quick. Enjoy yourself this year, after it everything changes. I mean if you're planning on going to college, then just wait till then. I understand the feeling of others doing that. The whole fashion thing, who cares what other people think. I mean if your comfortable wearing what you like then its fine. 2years go I was in the same boat, and I went out and wasted so much money on new clothes, it didn't change a thing. Just be yourself.
don't worry a lot of people think others are gay just because they aren't overly sexual and wear tight clothes
for instance the jonas brothers: they are religious and wear purity rings, so everybody thinks they must be gay. i don't know why having values makes you gay.
they also wear tight clothes, but a lot of guys do, still people still think their gay, when they are totally straight. (as a 17 year old girl i actually prefer the tighter style than clothes hanging off guys)
i understand what you are talking about, i live in so. cal and the people at my school are the same way
Sorry I didn't read all of this but I didn't need to.
Most of those girls who think you are funny, cute, etc are probably bad mouthing you to the guys in school. There isn't a high school that exists where every girl is going to adore a popular girl when she is considered better than them. That goes against human nature. It's a natural reaction for some of them to feel angry and to say bad thing about you. Women are always somewhat narcissistic (even a little bit). That is why we care so much about our appearance etc. So if we see someone who is being treated better than us it is only natural for there to be some rivalry.
People in general are very critical of others who don't follow their trend. They don't seem to undestand that different cultures bring different styles and ways of being. High school kids are the worse because they have yet to experince things so it's kinda like they live in a bubble. Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with u because u do things different. It's not like ur hurting anyone by being urself
After I read the last sentence I totally understand what you are talking about now! I am a junior in high school right now in Modesto California. And seriously if you go to school one day looking really good and in good clothes, then immediately everybody hates you! Its like, "look at that rich fag." and they totally make assumptions before they get to know you! It makes me mad because they are obviously extremely jealous and are so immature. Anything they even vaguely dislike immediately becomes "gay". "You play soccer? Dude your hella gay!". "You are in art club? dude your hella gay!". "You didn't hook up with that girl? Dude your hella gay!". Its so annoying, I can't wait to get past high school into college. High school kids in Cali are so immature and a waste of my time.
Waaaaaayyyyy to long, but hey, who cares what they think, do you have any friends that are girls? invite her to the dance with a "NO GRINDING" hehe policy. I'm sure if she'd only your friend she'll not wanna " FEEL YOUR THING" hehe anyway!
So be yourself and screw people who are haters, once you leave school you'll never have to worry about them again and most people once they are outta school want to become an individual anyhoo, it's just the way all schools are i'm afraid. But be happy that you are an individual and found yourself way before those idiots! :)
Ok well the girls are all over you and the guys think u'r gay.
Basically i think they're just making themselves feel better due to the fact that you high in the social rankings and attractive amongst the ladies.
Their just jealous of you 'cause your popular and you get all the girls that think your cute, funny, friendly and a flirt (which most girls like) and the guys can't have that so they are just calling out names to put you down. Just brush them off and keep doing what your doing.
ino how you feel about immature teenagers, like you im going to be senior, and i understand how other kids can be. my advice to you is to brinng a girl to the dance. hang out with ur friends and dance there, remember you do not have to grind, especially if u do not feel comfortable doing so. when other guys see that you bring a girl, they might start thinking differently. i hope everything gets better.