Okay, I really don't understand boys. Most people always tell me how beautiful I am, and that I have a figure of a model. I don't dress slutty but neat, cute clothes. I'm very athletic, I'm on varsity basketball and track, and have a very good future ahead of me. I have a lot of guy friends, I'm not a tomboy I hang out with girls most of the time. Guys always stare at me but I never had a boyfriend yet going into my third year of high school, It confuses me on why guys don't ever ask me out or why I wouldn't have a boyfriend right about now. My best friend told me it's because I'm to nice.( like what would be wrong with that, at least they now I would be faithful in a relationship). Most of my friends in my group get asked out all the time.I'm desperate to date right now cus, it seems that it brings a lot of drama, but i wanna now. So whats the problem....??
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you probably have a pretty girl syndrome...it's like you are TOO pretty for them plus being nice puts you more into the "marriage" category...it sucks because guys aren't ready for that until late 20s/early 30s
just go out there and be your confident/authentic self and you'll end up with someone for you
whatever you do...please don't settle for someone you don't really like or make yourself slutty
OK. This girl "Grace" below me is wrong. Guys are hard to understand, but not impossible. Guys now like girls they can "hit it and quit it" with. You don't seem like that type of girl so maybe they just know ahead of time not to ask you out because you won't be as likely to give it to them. Being faithful in a relationship is an extremely important quality and when high school is over, those guys will be looking for a girl to spend the rest of their lives with. Don't get your hopes up just because you're a Junior in high school. God made someone for everyone and you will find him when the time is right. In the meantime, mingle. . .make friends and just have fun.
Guys are difficult to figure out. I understand your confusion. Just hang in there because they aren't totally incomprehensible.
Well, if you normally talk that highly of yourself, then that would be my guess. If you were just trying to make your point then; you are going to have to be the aggressive one. Your looks, and everything else you mentioned might be intimidating to them. So in that case when you like someone, if they are avaliable just go for it no beating around the bush. You ask them on a date:::::::: why does the guys have to always ask?
Good luck!!!!!
Oh trust me, it's worth going through highschool with out the boys! It will get better as the guys mature, promise... And is so worth the wait!
maybe they are just intimidated by u cause of ur looks..if u like a guy or think a guy is cute, go up and talk to him..the guy doesnt always have to make the first move..guys like girls who are confident and know what they want. dont play hard to get or wont wait around...some guys are just shy and just dont have the guts to go up and talk to u..its normal..make it easy on them
I have the same problem, but I'm a guy and no girl ever seems to be interested in me.
If you're as athletic as you sound, they might consider you "one of the guys" so to speak.
no girl understands boys. just accept it move on.