Me and my LDR have been together for a year and we have known each other for over 4 years. We have Skype sex chats and we have cyber sex every now and then. We have had a very healthy sexual relationship. For our anniversary she wanted to give me "anal sex" via cyber sex conversation. Since I have asked for it for so long and she finally was convinced by me XD. And we had it now after wards I made two 10 minute long videos about our relationship about how it lasted a year and just yesterday she was telling me she dosent like the fact we are having rp cyber sex or Skype sexing becasue she wants to remain loyal to her family. Before all this happened she had a freind on facebook who is my ex. My LDR asked my if I ever did anything sexual with her and I told her we almost did. After that my girlfreind seemed like she was trying to keep in the jealousy when she told me that she dosent want Skype sex or cyber sex becasue she feels she is offending her family? And we got into a huge argument where she said I only wanted her for sex =.= and that I was using her like a *****. Or something? I was heart broken :( why is this?
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After reading this, I had to sit back and read it again just to make sure I'd read it right. Then I had to look at it from both points of view. I'm going to take your point of view first. You see, you've seem to have found someone you like and want to have what you call safe sex with. The individual seems willing to do it with you because YOU like it a lot and it's something you enjoy a lot. You don't have any problems with it and you can do it like you want and at your own convenience. Yeah, it's what you like, what you want, and it works to you. You're open and honest about it. Now that we've got that little bit out of the way, you can now sit back and read the other half.
Ok, so two things happened. Your friend got a little update from someone you dated, which happens to be mutual friends you have on....facebook is it? Your LDR(and I have no idea what that is) was asked by her family to cut that crap out and try to do something a little more healthy with her life like get up and get out once in a while instead of sitting there having cyber sex on the computer. You have to understand something important and it may hurt your feelings but you'll get it.
She may have a valid point. She may have it in her mind that you're addicted to doing what you like and have yet to ask her what she wants to do. And if that's true(which it is), then you also need to know that it's not fair. You've got to think outside the box. Lay off the cyber-sex for just a bit. When you get online and you chat with her, try doing something else for once like talking about a good movie, books, her likes, what she likes to do instead of spending 98% of your time attempting to persuade her to do what YOU want to do(sexual pleasure). Chicks, ladies, women, girls....are people, too. Always remember that a relationship.....is give and take, not take and take. Cool?
On a side note: You're one lucky dude to have found a chick who'll put up with it as long as she has without just moving on to better things. Your best bet is to sit back and listen to her needs once in a while before you end up by yourself.