Theres this guy hes early 40s im early 20s we have been texting and talking for around 9 months now we work together so we see alot of each other... in the last few weeks we have been meeting up and 'doing things' i know this is bad as he is married with children. No one has to comment on how bad this is i do know but i cant help myself, i have to work with him so its almost impossible to cut all ties as when i have tried it never works!!! In the last few weeks we have met up a few times we havent had sex but we have done everything else, its hard as hes also very good and experienced hes much older than me. Anyway i need to get myself out of this but i dont want to however i know i need to before i get too deep this man fills my head space more than he should, we text all the time which he starts not me he seems as much into me as i am with him but i know hes a jack **** as hes playing around on his family i need to get out of this so if any one else has been in a similar experience let me know any advice u would have please? I really do not understand what this guy has over me hes not the best looking but we can talk for hours and we generally do get on alot and have a laugh!! very confused!
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A married man 'loves' with all his passion -- he goes 'full out' in affairs because he knows he is already married so he knows that YOU know that he is Taken.
He also tries harder to please you so you stick around, since he hasn't much else to offer but the feeling of making you feel Special and wonderful.
I'm sure it's very flattering to think that a Married Man is Risking his family -- his marriage and his children growing up in an intact home -- for YOU. That surely must mean you are SO special and wonderful that he simply can't help himself, and has fallen head over heels for you..... right?
Wrong. A married man only acts the part of Charming Lover... he is essentially, at his core, a rotten character, who is a greedy and selfish Cake Eater all the way.
He thinks nothing of USING YOU for his own sexual gratification, and getting off on the fact that 'such a young girl' is interested in him. He is using you for an ego-boost, as well as a vaginal doormat (you say you haven't had sexual intercourse, yet, but I am sure you blow him well).
There's really nothing romantic or wonderful about what he's doing -- he is using you and abusing his wife's trust. Honestly, there is no worse betrayal than what he is doing to his innocent wife...
Please don't help him with this deception and betrayal. Get out now before you fall in love with that piece of trash.... in the end, a lot of people will be hurt by your relationship, but if you pull out sooner, rather than later, perhaps there will not be devastation.... or do you really want to be 'caught' by his wife or a colleague?
You both could lose your jobs. His wife could see to that. She might also take a leaf out of YOUR play book and Insert herself into YOUR life, just like you decided to insert yourself into her home/life.... she might tell all your family members and friends that you have been running around with a married man.
There could be ugly consequences, for you, to say nothing of for him... he could lose his marriage, and lose the respect of her family members and his kids too. He might be divorced, and asked to leave his house, and not be able to raise his own kids everyday. There's a lot riding on your available pussy.
Do the right thing and dump him. Go completely No Contact, if you see him at work only talk to him about job related things, and try get a transfer to another office/project/ whatever.
Emily after 9 months the fact that he is still with his wife
should tell you he is just out out for what he can get from you
this will go on for as long as you allow it to
you will become to him the other woman or his bit on the side
Is this what you want and to prolong your agony ?
You either cut all ties or accept what he has to offer when he does
But don't ever expect to come before his wife and family
The choice is yours to make