Ok so me and my wife have been married for a minute man and she is amazing , my sister always hated her and my wife has gone out of her way to be civil to her. My sister has 5 kids and her husband is jail for beating her. My mother and sister have made my wife get DNA test for all our kids and sign a prenup because I have money, my wife raised my oldest daughter and son (8 and 4) without a problem or complaint. My mother and sister are used to controlling my finances because I used to spend majority of my money on my sister and mothers bills and sisters children. Now I have my own family and don't want to support them ... ok let's start with my wife being pregnant with our twin boys and when she told my mother ,my mom says "she's after your money" and my sister says "those aren't yours" well it seemed like they came around and they threw her a huge baby shower, where they had my ex wife come and tell everyone of my coworkers and friends she was pregnant by me. ( my ex wife left me and our children years ago for another man) and they showed all these pictures of my wife as a lesbian and brought her being taken away from her mother up and my wife pleaded with them to stop she just wanted them to like her and as my wife got up to hug my mother and sister and my sister pushed my wife over a chair and she fell on her back...she lost one of our children but our son Kyeann suffers some mental problems. My mother apologized and tries so hard to get back good with us, but my sister she has ruined my wifes car , calls her job and ruins her reputation in our small community... my wife got pregnant again and my sister spit in her face and called our son a retard. She has tried to sue my wife because I will not allow her to visit our children. After I stopped paying her bills she got kicked out of her house , and my wife begged and fought for her and her children to move in. I let her and I came home to my wife running insane watching my sisters kids ,
Update:Wow I never thought about myself as the push over.... that`s insightful.
I love my sister so much and I just can`t seem to let her go no matter what because she has supported me so much in my career and life, My mother tells me that when my wife leaves me I will only have them , they pray on the fact that my last wife left and I was so broken they were my "wife" in a way and I just want to thank them.
I don`t want to loose my current wife but the way this is currently going these 6 years. I know she`ll leave me... I just can`t take her leaving they know that.
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You're the pushover. You tell your children that your sister is mentally ill and a mean person. Then you make sure that she never lives with you again. You tell your wife that your sister will either behave or be gone, that you will back your wife and you won't let your sister run your life.
Then do it. Tell your sister that you won't allow her to be poisonous to your wife. You will only allow her to have very limited access to your life. If she starts talking badly about your wife, you will cut her off. You will not help her financially, you will not be in her presence, and if she starts talking like this by phone you will hang up. Then do it. Frankly, she should not be living in your house. She is mentally ill and she could be dangerous to your wife and kids. If she can't afford a place to live, you can pay for one month's rent but that's it. Just pay enough to get her out of your home. Then be clear to her that you won't keep paying and she needs to figure out her own finances or have the government put her children into foster care. You are not an ATM. Or you can say you will only pay her rent if she behaves herself, but as long as she says nasty things about your wife then you won't. She has to earn her rent by keeping her mouth shut. If she can't do that, she can live on the streets or in homeless shelters. Be firm on this.
You can't help what she says to other people, but I will bet that people are on to how terrible a person she is.
Your wife sounds like a good person to put up with all of this. You need to tell your kids that your marriage is strong and that you expect them to behave to your wife. If they say anything mean, you need to correct them immediately. Such behavior is not to be tolerated.
I suggest you get counseling to learn how to deal with your family. Your doctor can refer you to a good therapist. This has been going on too long and you need to be firm with your family.
Definitely move away - far away - and don’t give your family the address.
The hell with your family. Your wife and your children are your family now.
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You need to move. Far away from your family