my best friend of 9 years is having a party right now and i was invited but she lives a few towns away from me and my parents were working late and i didn't think it would be worth it especially bcuz i didnt like all the people going there because i feel like im fading from them. and i was gunna make plans with my boyfriend but we can't decide on what to do and he doesn't wanna drive anywhere or spend money on a movie theater. and i offered to pay for him but he doesn't like taking my money. and i told my friend having the party that it was too confusing with rides and now my boyfriend is saying he thinks they want me there. idk do they want me there and im being paranoid about fading from them?
Update:oh idk why i put "lies" in my title either...when i write i tend to just add things that sound better since i am a writer..not that i was lying (haha, irony) but that's really why i put it there. Especially since on these things you need catchy titles to get answers. And i ended up going to the party and I was right, I am fading from them except for a few people but those few people mean everything to me:) And i was just so paranoid to go because I moved to a new school and they are from my old school. And yes they ended up talking about people i dont remmeber and things I werent there for just as I predicted. But it was great seeing my friend of 9 years and my other two friends too and my boyfriend got to have the quiet night that he needed:) life is good!
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We can't tell you if they want you there because everything is hearsay and we aren't them or in their heads. And based off of the information provided in your question, I'm assuming that nobody backstabbed anybody and no fights or any other kind of altercations (verbal or physical) broke out. You should talk it out with them. Why do you feel that you're fading away from them? This is just something that you're going to have to work on. People fade away from each other all the time, but it IS possible to reconnect with them. Do you want to get close with them again? Did/do you value their friendship? If so, go for it! They'll probably be open to your friendship once again. Your boyfriend already seems to think that they will.
Maybe you should go to the party and have a great night with those people, your good friend of nearly a decade, and your boyfriend. That could be the start of you reconnecting with them. If you don't go, maybe plan something else out for another day. But the more you don't spend time with them, the further you will all grow apart. You need to strengthen this bond as soon as possible. Your role in fixing this problem is vital, too. It's not only up to them.
Good luck and if you do decide to go (I personally think that you should just go to the party), have fun! Just relax and don't be paranoid. You deserve to have wonderful friends in your life, too!
GO THERE! What is the worst that can happen. You dont wanna look back on your life in 50 years asking "what if i went?"
You might meet new friends, and rekindle old relationships..maybe even clear the air with your paranoia LOL
Even if nobody talks to you, you will be the one i nthe power position from having gone to the party.
Plus, I think they like you or else they wouldnt have invited you...I just dont understand why your wrote "lies" in your title???
Go! If you don't go, your friend might feel like your bond is fading, and you don't want that right? Of course they want you there!