I am back from Ireland where I lived two years and I live at my parent's place again.
My younger brother is there and my older sister came from Christmas.
I didnt see my sister for 4 years before this.
the problem is that she is being evil, she is a little depressed cause she has no job and no boyfriend, so she takes out on me, basically she doesnt like me because she is jealous of the attention I can get from my parents.
Basically, if we are having a dinner, she doesnt speak and if I say something she critisizes or sings in order to show me that she doesnt have any interest in my conversation topic.
And if I try to speak with my mother, she comes and prevents me from speaking to my mother.
Basically, she wants to prevent me to live.
I explode several times because as I lived in Ireland I am just not used anymore to people provocating me and she simply answers stuff like : **** off and I told her that if she hates me, it is her problem not mine.
The worst is that I have my own problems and I dont want to f.ck my mind because of pb with a jealous sister.
Please, could you tell me how I should deal with this? My parents noticed but do nothing.
Should I leave?
Update:Plus, I try to be the most possible in my room but unfortunately she needs to go through my room for going to hers, so I can't really have a perfect intimacy, that is really hard.
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Unfortunately I think your sister is jealous of you and when you returned home, it was as if you were intruding upon her space and attention. If your parents had not seen you in 2 years while you were away in Ireland, then they very well were excited to have you home and probably pay more attention to you because they missed you. Your sister just is not understanding that as she was probably the one that got all their attention while you were away. Maybe you can take some time away from your family during the day and go visit your friends or go to a bookstore or coffee shop and just spend some time on your own out and about. This not only gives you some personal space to clear your mind, but it also allows your sister an opportunity to have things her way for awhile and you aren't in her way. I think if you can come to a mutual agreement that you will take time away so she can be with your parents exclusively then things may calm down a bit. Communicate though with your sister and just let her know that you understand that things are different now that you are home and you don't want to make things difficult. If you show a mature attitude toward trying to resolve the conflict, then she will be less threatened and will probably change her attitude too.
Have you tried talking to her about it? Go to her and remind her that you are both adults and should resolve this as such. Perhaps something was said or done completely unintentionally that has her offended. Even if you are not at fault in any way, ask her if you did something to cause her to act like this. If she tells you, just let her know that you didn't mean to hurt her. Make it clear what she is doing to you, how it is affecting you and that you don't want this division in the family. Just try to find a common ground where you can be civil to one another. And let her know that you do love her and wouldn't want to hurt her, and that you would hope that she feels the same to you.
I think that if you leave this will create even more problems between you and your sister. You need to let you mom know about this so that she can do something about it. This means that you need to lock you and your mom in a room if you have to, to get your sister away. Also, if that doesn't work, maybe write her a sweet letter saying you don't want your relationship to be flushed down the toilet and that it means alot to you for you two to be friends. I think talking to her and your mom is the key. and make sure you don't hide from the problem or run away from it! hope this helps!
don't let the witch run you off. Just kindly ask your parent's to let you know when she will be coming, so you can make other plans to be gone. She needs to learn that is no way to treat a sister but in the time you were gone, she got mom and dad to herself and she doesn't want to share again. Just like teaching a toddler to share, you need to teach her how to share again. Schedule time with your folks without her being around. Who cares if she gets upset. They are both of your parent's, not just hers.
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dear 26 year old girl,
your sister is jealous,don't move just deal with it and if you want to talk to your mom and she interferes just push her and keep talking about whatever you were talking about
sincerely,
advice giver