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As someone who is watching everyone around her get pregnant (even those who were not trying) I can tell you that she is probably jealous. The desire to have a child can be very strong, and it hurts a lot to see it happen to people around you, but it's just not happening for you. While I am happy for all of my friends (6 have announced pregnancies in the 5 months my hubby and I have been trying, 3 of those six were on birth control) and show them that I am happy, I can't help but to be hurt, jealous, and discontent with myself.

Just sit her down and tell her that you understand the desire to have children, and that you are very sorry for her losses, but that you need her to be happy for you too. You never fully get over the loss of a child, even if you lost that child during the pregnancy. I've had a miscarriage, and sometimes I still cry about it. Just keep that in mind when you speak with her. Good luck to you and congrats on your pregnancy!

First of all, if you happen to lose this baby and then the next only to find out you will never have a child then you let us all know if 7 years is enough time to get over that loss. I'm guessing not. Being pregnant is exciting and the minute you find out you are pregnant you love that child, you start thinking about names and imagining what your child may look like, be like, and then what they will do with their lives. That is normal, then suddenly you miscarry and people act like it wasn't such a big deal b/c you weren't that far along and it wasn't a "real" baby yet so you should just shake it off and move on. The thing is it was a child and it was a loss and that loss is compounded by those around you not getting how great that loss was for you. To be honest, the fact that you are pregnant makes me wonder how you could not understand that. If the woman goes on to have a healthy pregnancy then many times that pain is eased even if not totally erased, in your sister in laws case she is not that lucky and will carry forever. That would be horrible, losing 2 children, wanting to be a mom and then knowing it won't happen when it seems to happen easily for others. Maybe it is too painful for her to deal with you when you are all pregnant excited and she remembers how that felt but without the positive outcome. Cut her some slack, when she is around don't focus so much on your pregnancy and how great it is for you, at least give her a while to get use to the idea. Maybe make her a bigger part of it as it gets closer, ask her to be the god mother or something. Maybe she can not have her own kids but she could end up being a really awesome aunt. My sister in law couldn't have children and she has really come through for my kids in so many ways and she has told me on numerous occasions that while she does a lot for them that they just don't know what they are doing for her and what she gets back emotionally and the void that is filled by them greatly out weighs the money and time she has given to them. Try to see things from your sister in laws side, immagine walking in her lonely,sad, heart broken shoes with no baby to hold or watch grow and then maybe you will understand her behavior a little better.

Short answer No that is not enough time to be over her loss. The women can never bear children there is no amount of time that will heal that loss. It is a pain she has to live with every day of her life for the rest of her life.

Try and see things from her perspective. Put yourself in her shoes what if you could never have kides? what if you lost your child after the excitement of thinking you were going to become a Mother and then were told it was never going to happen to you. What if your whole future dreams were snapped away from you in such a horrible way. Wouldnt you be a little bit bitter about it and maybe take it out on others from time to time.

Im not saying you deserve for her to take it out on you. Im not saying that at all. Im just saying try and understand how she must feel and forgive her if she sometimes acts a little spiteful because it is hard for her to see others get everything she cant have and probably wants.

Try and get her excited about being an aunty but be sensitve to the fact that yes it will hurt her still.

Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy

Well some people are just like that and when a woman looses a baby like that, it never really goes away. She is probably happy for you but she is sad in a way because she wish she could had that experience like what you are having. When someone looses a baby, it hurts, and it stays with them for a while. Well I don't know if that helps any, but I hope all gets better with your sister-in-law.

You cannot do much. But you need to try and understand what she is going through. Loosing one baby would be hard enough, but she lost two. And now she cannot even have babies. So when she sees you, with child, she has a right to be mad or upset and angry. Just not with you. As you did not cause her loss, and did nothing wrong. Just blow it off and remember that she has her reasons. It may seem like enough time to be over it to you, but not for her. Try and comfort her and be there for her is all you can do.

Well you got to understand that she might be bitter in this area especially when you had two and they both ended the same way. And then to be told that you can not do it anymore. Well I don't even know you and we are a day apart I am due aug 04 and they say the fifth but I looked on the sites and it still says the 4th. But I wish you luck and cong. with your baby.

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you would never get over losing a baby/ies

maybe ask her to be god mother or to help with shopping for ur baby and try get her involved with you and ur baby, it could help with your bond together and help her feel apart which can help with her losses

just let her be or sit her down to talk with her bout something that involves getting over the babies