I was 9 weeks pregnant and this past Friday I started to bleed a little. I went to the hospital were they did an ultrasound and found an 8 week fetus but no heart beat. Also they said I had a really high infection count and was having a septic miscarriage. They kept me over night and gave me IV antibiotics. In the morning the dr came in and did the d&c. for some reason I was not put to sleep, they gave me a spinal. I was crying throughout the procedure. I was just wondering if anyone could give me some words of wisdom. How do I deal with the memory of hearing them do the procedure? When will I stop just crying out of nowhere? How long until I will feel ready to try again? Will I be able to start trying in 3 months or will it be longer bc o f the infection? Will I have a harder time getting pregnant again? I have an appointment made with my dr in 2 weeks but im just looking for advice. Long answers welcome.
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Honey, I'm soo sorry for your loss.
Shame on the health care "professionals" for not seeing to your needs. Talking with your doctor is a good first step. A sit down conversation explaining what happened during your procedure- I don't believe your doctor intended you to hear everything.
Allow yourself to grieve. You experienced a loss. Cry when you need to. It's a personal experience: there is no time frame. Not every woman feels exactly the same way for the same amount of time.
This is a health support website: www.dailystrength.org.
It may offer on line support for those really-I can't talk to people close to me moments. They may mean well but can really hurt your feelings.....
Ask your M.D. for local physical support groups.
I will think of you and send you good thoughts toward your emotional and physical healing.
hello, i'm so sorry on your loss. I even have has various miscarriages and that i comprehend what you're dealing with. it is very nicely to cry and it is very nicely to mourn your loss. i'm sorry which you have such poor thoughts of the d & c. it is going to take a rapid time to quit feeling like crying, yet sooner or later quickly you will discover which you flow a morning without bursting into tears after which an afternoon etc. Time quite helps to heal your wounds. I had 6 miscarriages and misplaced one toddler in the present day after delivery, and that i desire you to be attentive to that on an identical time as you will in all probability in no way neglect, you would be ok. i became into informed i could desire to start attempting agin in a million-3 months....or once I felt as much because it, and that i did no longer have a complicated time getting pregnant returned, my miscarriages have been by using a clotting affliction, which took them a on an identical time as to make sure, i could incredibly communicate on your commonplace practitioner and discover out what the probability is of this going on returned, etc. guard your self, undergo in ideas it is very nicely to cry and sense unhappy, overwhelmed, indignant, and undergo in ideas too that your hormones are going to be up and down too....take it hardship-free in case you could. be at liberty to digital mail me in case you have any questions or desire to talk, each now and then that's what have been given me interior the direction of the day. God bless.