Update on my scenario of my sister in law having too much power over my wife. Some asked is she Italian? Yes. She & hubby bought that 400K house and we do not have to relocate next to their ritzy crib to be her neighbor. You ask why not? Our furniture would not fit, it is 1000sq ft smaller than our house and it is zoned for a depressed school. Thus, we are NOT building a house or moving next to her so she can manipulate my wife and our infant. Here is the kicker..unknown to them a seasoned appraiser informs me the cracker box shack they bought has a fair market value is 295K not 400K & 625 feet smaller than their current house. This new crib is built on a swamp. Guess sister in law will be going back to work to keep up with the Jones and paying some $$$ for daycare. This stay home dad/home based business guy prevailed over the intrusive in-law. Best of all ...they will be 12 miles farther away from us. My wife is :( ...while I am shhh :) Thanks for the support