So my family is sort of the shy type and doesn't like me socializing or something. Anyways, I guess that plays a part in my not being able to speak my mind. I always think "but if Ii say this, what if it hurts people's feelings?". For example, it sounds stupid but I wanted to post this on Facebook but I thought I would offend people.."So..can we all just take a few doses of humble before starting the day? It seems like all the problems in society are a result of arrogance." PLUS doesn't that make ME sound arrogant? LOL . Bottom line...I have trouble speaking my mind whether it be in person or online. Especially online. I hate confrontation and I like to keep the peace so if I think it will bother people, I won't say it. Should I take a speech class? Debate? Will that help, do you think? Or is this a good thing?
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If you are willing, debating would be a good way to improve your communication and verbalisation skills. That is, as long as you are willing to do it, and you're not just subjecting yourself to the experience in the hopes that a benefit will materialise from it.
Being afraid or reluctant to voice your opinions isn't necessarily a good thing, or at least that is my take on the issue. You should (once again, speaking subjectively) feel free to be able to relay thoughts, beliefs and opinions without fearing excessive criticism. The good thing about debating is that it also teaches you that you should be able to justify your opinions and thoughts with substantiative evidence. While I profess that speaking your mind is a positive thing, too often people make claims or enforce ideologies with little to no proof of those claims or opinions.
As for your status, I fail to see the arrogance in it. Targeting a societal issue is not equal to wallowing in arrogance.
No,
All of the Problems in Society are NOT from Arrogance,
and you are Assuming that "ALL" people need a Dose of Humble
when you state:
.."So..can we all just take a few doses of humble before starting the day?
It seems like all the problems in society are a result of arrogance."
just because your experience may be that "All" people you know
need an Attitude adjustment in the Morning, is a blatant Oversimplification
and you do not sound arrogant just ignorant
You'll learn with time to recognize when situations are such that silence would be the only non-offensive answer. Sometimes not answering or questioning is...
...the best response.
Around certain kinds of people (like me) you could speak your mind and I wouldn't be offended, since I have thick skin, but the trick is to recognize which people would be offended and which would not, and then act accordingly on a case by case basis.with each situation.
Mind and consciousness are same. It is so huge that if you like to make a floppy, it will be a big as Earth. You can not share with any one. You can share small part like day today experience, emotion, hurt, feelings and ambition. Pride, Passion, Jealousy, anger and greed every one hide openly but keep deeply in consciousness.
I think you are wise to be careful what you post on-line. You can ruin your life and bring embarrassment to your family through what you post. Did you know prospective employers check out your Facebook page? It follows you. Once you post something it is there forever. Be careful. Use discretion (good sense).
I think you should just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.