I don't get this and I've done this before at times in my life. Towards a female, or just anyone in general, I like to be respectful towards others and be nice since that's how I am when I meet new people. Since they are new people in my life, I want them to feel comfortable around me and not feel out of place.

But, with women, there is that whole nice guy label that some people will place on a guy when he is nice to a woman. People say when a guy is treated like crap towards a woman, it's his fault for letting them allow that to happen. But, when a guy does stick up for his feelings and who he is (with his tone being more assertive), I do see some women get caught off guard by that and call him an asshole. When a guy is nice and such, he is seen as a doormat by some women. But, when he is disrespected and stands up to a woman, he is seen as an asshole and such. I do stand up to women who treat me like crap, I will say it. I have that balance of being nice, but when I'm disrespected and such, I will confront a woman on how I feel on the issue and everything.

But, a man showing that side of himself when he is nice a lot of times is seen as weak and only wanting sex. When he stands up for himself and confronts a female about how she treats him, he is a bad guy or expect him to revert back to the nice guy since that assertive side catches them off guard. NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THIS!!!! But, this is what I've experienced in my life. Why is it bad being nice to women you like and want to be with? And why is it still looked down upon when a guy stands up for how he is being mistreated?

People say it's the guy's fault for allowing the woman to mistreat him and such, but how can he allow it when it is such an unexpected thing happening to him he is thrown off by?