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Wtf? Your uncle has absolutely no right to control you like this. You're 18 now, so legally you're allowed to do whatever you want. Get your stomach piercing, steal your phone back, break your curfew - it's your life now! I suggest moving out as soon as you possibly can. Is there a friend you could stay with in the mean time? You say your uncle works from 8-6, so that gives you plenty of time to pack all your things. It might be hard to leave your uncle if you love him, but he's treating you like crap here :/ Good luck hun!

It sounds like he is too controlling, but at the same time maybe trying to keep you safe, because he may still see you as younger than you are. I would sit down and tell him how you feel. Try to be diplomatic and tell him that you need more acknowledgement of your age given that you are old enough to vote. If he is paying for your phone, then I guess he has a right to decide when you can use it. If it gets worse, then try to see if you can share an apartment with someone for low rent. That must be difficult. I am sorry. Find some friends to talk to so that you will not feel so alone. Get a job so you can save more money and look to the future.

I think you should try to be as respectful as possible, because it will only get more difficult if you don't. Try to talk to him and ask him why he won't let you do certain things. I can see why he doesn't want you to get your belly button pierced, because he associates it with the wrong crowd and he loves you and probably thinks of you as his daughter. He probably just wants the very best for you. Be glad that you have someone who could care for you instead of being in foster homes and living a life of confusion. I know it isn't perfect, but hopefully in a year or so, he will see that you are at the age when he should treat you more as an adult. Maybe he just needs another year or so to realize this.

He sounds a little over protective. But think of it this way, he has raised you like you are his child. And you are the link left to your father and he might cherish that and want to protect you the way your father would have. Dad's are like this and my dad was the same way. I was his little girl and at the time, I hated it to because I wanted to be 'older' and do the things that others were doing, but now that I look back, I loved having a dad like that because most people dont have anyone that cares for them enough to be that protective over him. It may not seem like it now, but it is something you should cherish. I know that is not what you are wanting to hear, but that is just my opinion. Just show him some respect and he might loosen up a little on you.

Dear Cell block 666,

Let me show you how to get around all of this, because I grew up with devoutly religious parents, one of which is the pastor of my church, and around preachers, deacons, missionaries....I'm a PK (preacher's kid) It's a different set of rules, similar to yours. And I manage to break them all the time.

Lets list somethings out first

Him not letting you get your bell button pierced is not a bad thing, it just shows how conservative he is.

You are living in his house rent free, you will cook, clean, launder...children do this (free labor for parents) Don't worry about it.

My parents never let me stay out unless it was a family member, so you are doing better than me at that age.

Remember he is an adult (paying taxes ....) he won't listen to you unless its about something that directly affects him-like the bleach stain in his new black pants...

Ok, now to the fun stuff...

Get a job ASAP and save your money. IF you have money save it and do not spend it. As a matter of fact, you need to make sure there was no insurance money or trusts or anything like that set up for you. Your mother's injury is sad, where is she? You should spend as much time with her as you can.

What I would tell you to do is go to a college out of town/state. IF you want to still be close to your mother find a college near there. Apply for as many scholarships as possible.

There are several out there for students with one parent, disabled parents, red hair, green eyes, two toes missing just search and apply. If possible go to the campus you are going to ask financial aid for help. Loans are bad. Grants are good. One word FAFSA. College is a different world and I suggest that you live on campus if possbile. Do not live with your uncle afterwards because he can put you out now that you are 18.

Im not going to lie to you...Its going to be hard being alone and by yourself. You will make friends, promise... and good ones at that. During the next 4 years, you will be selfish, think only about your future, what you can do to help others ( within reason) and how you can better yourself. I can tell you right now, if you don't take this time to focus on yourself you will regret it and always be dependent on people who will use it against you. Go out, party, go to class, join student govt. and do it all over again. But make sure you don't lose focus of what you went to school for. Get the belly button ring if you want to after you have moved out.

Work Hard Now, Play Harder Later. That's how I've gotten through 3 years and the 4th is time for the playing.

I have extra room, but most of my furniture consists of exercise equipment.

You are 18, an adult. Sit down with him and explain to him that you aren't a little girl any more, that you are an adult and he needs to stop treating you like a little kid.

If he won't see it your way, then tell him you're outta there. You should have some friends who will let you stay with them.

I highly doubt if he would kill you because he would spend the rest of his life in prison.

He needs a reality check!

I think that your uncle just loves you and he feels that you are his respomsibility. It is always difficult for a man to raise a girl and they tend to be more protective. exspecially if you are not their biological child. However you should be very blunt with him and let him know that he is pushing you away,. explain to him that you are 18 years old and that you feel you do not receive his respect as far as you being a grown woman(which you are.) explain that you appreciate him being concerned about you and your safety but if he will just loosen the rope a little you will prove to him that you are very trustworthy.

obay his rules which will earn his respect. after a while of that then ask him to change some of these rules. if that doesn't work then just deal with it for the summer since u r going to college which is a place where ur parents have o control over u. by the way he is that strict because he loves u

What the hell does that have to do about Singles & Dating???

Unless you're f-ing your uncle?

For the record. . . You're not wrong to be unhappy about this! You deserve better. . . Try to get him to understand that you have your own life now. Honor him for the time he has raised you but at the same time let him know that its your life to live the way you want! You're 18 for god's sake!

Solution is a long term solution: get your situation financially stable (get your nurse schooling) and get out and independant asap.

It will be hard so lots of courage and lots of luck to you.

You are 18yo he can't stop you. you are legally able to do what you want ask your bf if you can move in with him until you can afford to move into your own place if you don't move out he will only get worse.He's a controll freak and getting more out of controll.