I'm dating my best friend. I'm completely in love with him. And he is, to my knowledge, in love with me. We joke around a lot and stuff. Recently he's been more distant. Like we were walking, and he didn't kiss me.He ALWAYS kisses me when we go on walks. And then as he was going inside his house and I started to walk toward mine I was like "Night" and he said "Night" And I said "Love you!" and he didn't say anything. We ride the bus together and he always puts his arm around me. He didn't today, even when I leaned on his shoulder. I also was gonna go over to play MW3, and then he never texted me or contacted me all day today. So I was just waiting around for a reply. Then he got on tumblr and was on there all day. I left him a cute note on tumblr which he ignored. I make sweet posts about him and he ignores them. He says he never replies because he "wants to keep them." He used to message me and be like "AWWWW I LOVE YOU" and stuff. I feel like this relationship is a bunch of me trying and him being lazy. I just want to give up and stop making an effort to "teach" him that he has to try to. I doubt that he doesn't love me anymore. If he doesn't, then I don't know what I'm gonna do. I don't know how to even talk about it to him or if I should. I'm deeply upset over this and then I made posts on Tumblr relating to it and he ignored them. Tomorrow I thought maybe I'd just ignore him. All day. Be as distant as possible. Just so he knows how it felt. I don't know, what should I do?
Update:the thing also is i don't ever see him. me and him stand with a group of friends in the morning, so not alone. i see him briefly between 3rd & 4th where we pass a daily note to eachother. should i put it in the note?
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First of all, you are being wayyyy too needy and clingy. This is human nature...when we sense someone is being distant, we make efforts to pull them closer. All this does it push them further away. Psychologists would call your relationship a classic overwaterer/underwaterer. Comparing a relationship to a plant...if you overwater it, the plant will die. If you underwater it, the plant also dies. In relationships, one partner will overwater and the other partner will underwater. Both end up resentful. There needs to be reciprocity...balance between who is caring for the relationship.
My advice? Stop texting him, stop trying to make plans with him, and stop posting sweet things on his wall, making posts on Tumblir, etc. And don't ignore him...that's the silent treatment, and it is wrong and emotionally abusive. From now on, you are going to work with the principal of RECIPROCITY. He says hi, you say hi. He texts you, you text back. He makes plans, you reciprocate. You are going to wait for him to initiate, and then reciprocate. In other words, you're going to back off and let him make all the moves. If your relationship is salvageable, he will. If he doesn't, it's over. But what you're doing right now...is pushing him further and further away, turning him off more and more. Think about it...if you're temporarily annoyed with someone and feel you need space...and they text you five times, write on your Facebook wall, post messages about feeling ignored on Tumblir, etc etc...will that make you WANT your space any less? No, it will just annoy the bejesus out of you. So realize that you're annoying him and back away.
Just ask him why he's acting that way straight up. Literally pull him aside just you two when you have time and ask him why is he behaving that way and describe the behavior you've stated. However, just to warn you usually when guys behave that way, they wanna break up. Don't play games like how he is because it will get you no where.
Maybe he's just not that into a relationship? Talk to him about and and explain how you feel. If things persist then leave him.
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I think that maybe hes stressing out about work/school/family? I think you should tell him how you're feeling. Ask him whats wrong and saying how you're really upset cause you're feeling lonely these days. Open up to him and maybe he'll open up to you.(: