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Before you make a move on him, make sure you're willing to date a bartender. If you're the impatient and jealous type or the type that likes to have dates during the night, you shouldn't date a bartender. We don't have the typical 9-5 work hours, and if the man you're looking to date is any good at what he does he'll be working during the club's busiest hours. This means that on most days you won't be able to go out on a date with him during the evening or at night. You should also be sure that you won't mind if he flirts with other people while he's working, because being flirtatious brings in more customers and thus more tips. Plus, you should be able to deal with the smell of alcohol, as he will no doubt smell like liquor by the end of his shift.

First off, you're not going to seem like a drunk if you aren't drunk. If you're coherent and able to refrain from vomiting all over the place, chances are you're not wasted.

Secondly, unless you ask this bartender for his address you're not going to look like a stalker. Most bartenders tend to be fairly open, as being a social person is the most important skills a bartender could have. We'll sometimes spill our own life experiences if it relates to the story we're being told and if we're not too busy. If you're relaxed and good at holding casual conversations you'll be fine... but it's always a plus if you make us laugh. The worst thing you could do when you're talking to his bartender, though, is rush him to respond to you or answer your question(s) when he's clearly got his hands full mixing drinks and serving other customers. When the bar is crowded and busy and you've got dozens of people shouting specific orders at you and demanding quick service it's hard to keep a steady conversation.

I'd suggest going for a drink when the bar isn't that busy so you'll have more time to talk to him. You'll be able to get to know each other that way, and if you make the right impression he might just call you back.

Good luck :D

oh edward smh havent you ever heard never to hit on a bartender at a gay bar?? 1 you dont know if he's gay! he's an employee not all employee's are gay ! you dont know if he's dating anyone! heck he can even b married! your not ganna stan out a bartender is payed to be nice and flirt a little but thats all you dont have a chance and 3 lets say you do have a chance you meet him go out with him, are you sure your ganna be ok with other other gay guys flirting with him giving him there numbers trying to do wht your trying to do? are you sure you wanna go throu this? dont make a fool out of yourself making a seen at the bar i sujest you dont go through this!

Be yourself

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