how can I discipline my sister?
she is 5 years old im her brother guardian who takes care of her. At the store she threw a major temper tantrum like she was kicking people and other things. She was hitting people and throwing things and was dumping things on the floor. I took her outside and spank her on the bottom she was even screaming when we came back inside. So I just left her there when I came back she said I wont let her do anything she even told me that she can do anything she wants to do. What are ways to punish her for her attitude?
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I agree with what H has said, but would like to add this: children of this age can still be very egocentric. after she has calmed down, explain to her what she did, how it was wrong, and how it made you and others feel. keep it simple, but explaining things over and over, every time, allows her to understand and learn better. Help her understand her emotions, so that she can understand yours. When she is mad or sad, or upset, you need to acknowledge her feelings, while staying firm. you can tell her; you were so mad in that store. But the way you acted was not ok. it made the people who work there mad too, they have to clean up after you. You hurt those people. Do you like to get hurt? how does it make you feel when you get kicked or hit?
A problem with spanking can arise in later years. "When children are spanked they learn that it is acceptable to hurt others who are younger, smaller, or more vulnerable. They learn that hands are more powerful than words....children imitate the important adults in their lives, children who have been spanked are more likely to deal with problems in an aggressive manner..."(pg. 208, first paragraph)
If you are a student, you could try taking some Early Childhood Education classes as well. they give great insight to these kinds of things, and can work as Humanitarian credit for many majors.
If you are her guardian, you should go to parenting classes. Many places have them and most of the time they are for free. They teach you how to handle things like this.
When she first started the temper tantrum, you should have taken her out of the store and gone home. Period. There's no excuse for a child kicking people and screaming and keeping them in that store.
Have time-out and enforce it. When she talks back, you take something away. You have to teach her that there are consequences to her actions.
1. you do not want to fuel their anger or tantrum.
2. you need to divert their attention to something else, like removing them from the situation
3. you can offer them something tangible for good behavior
Crate her.
you can't sisters are nuts