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Find out from your parents if they are still into the caste system. And they may not be only because we are in the states and they have become more Americanized and more global about the whole thing.

But also let them know that you love this person and the caste system is not something we do here. I personally know very little. I am Asian Pacific Islander, to be exact, and I get question about me being subservient (which I am not) or me having arranged marriages (which I did not)...

And my parents encouraged Asian but they certainly don't insist on it.

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I think your still very young to think about marriage at 17 unless you mean it future wise then I don't think caste should matter at all. Sadly, caste does still run in India today but I've seen places like UK, where the Indians are lucky to even marry anyone who's Indian. I think if you and your bf love each other and he sticks by your side and you do too, you should prove your parents wrong and both of you get a good education and good jobs and prove to your parents that caste doesn't matter, since at the end of the day, what they think is that chamars are low people which is far from wrong or any caste for that matter since times are changing and people need to let go of stupid roots, when people talk about caste they are only talking about pride in being better, but yeah I think if hes willing to be w/ you & your willing to be w/ him then it shouldn't matter but at the same time you shouldn't hurt your family neither should he so I think you just have to make them accept it since families everything.

Well that something I can relate to since I'm a chamari and my bf of 3years is Jatt too & I live in the U.S. What I have to say is that, since I'm the first generation born in the U.S. and like other children/teenagers our mindsets are totally different compared to our parents and family from India since they've been brought up around the caste system. But I think when your older and mature enough then its okay to be w/ someone of a different caste, in my situation we both are obviously Indian, speak the same language, & are both Sikh but the caste is an issue to my parents and his. I think there is NO excuse in the book to judge anyone because of their caste since it's basically being a prejudice and the Guru Granth specifically states to treat others equal and not to even look at caste but because of strong egos and too much pride over what their occupation was back in the day is shameful. Caste systems is just IGNORANT and people who still preach it have no open mind. Caste systems were originally made by Hindus too not Sikhs.

That's like the same situation with my sister; we're chamar and her bf is Jatt. They eventually do want to get married but yea its just the parents who are freaking out. You really shouldn't be looking at caste but rather what makes you happy in your future. Try to talk to your parents about this. I do believe that the caste system in India still runs today, i mean c'mon it's India, most people get arrange marriages, heck my cousin just got married there like 3 weeks ago?! But at least try to talk and reason with them, it won't hurt. Good Luck.

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if u both have a good understanding ,u think that u can lead ur life without ur family then u 2 can marriage.my frnd is hindu and her husband is muslim .they lead a good life.

as i know the caste system is still in india.