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There is nothing wrong with helping out and being there for the kid. However your really young. You've got your whole life ahead of you! Be there for her but don't act or be like the dad, you'll regret it!

I think you should talk to your parents about this situation. There is nothing wrong with being a positive influence in this child's life. If you were, say, 24, and wanting to marry the woman and take the child as your own. It would be a totally different situation. This time, however, you are still a kid yourself. I dont think you have half a clue what being a parent entails (I didnt and I was 22 and married when I had my first). You are still naive, even though you dont think you are. You can be there for her, and be a great influence for the baby, but to step into the role, of dad. Not yet. Sorry.

Have you spoken to your parents about this buddy? I know it may seem like the grown up and fun thing to do but believe me, you should not be even thinking about taking on such a role. Its very sad that your friend is pregnant so young but if she is keeping this baby, she needs to learn she can't just replace her childs father. If the biological dad doesn't want anything to do with her or bub then thats her mess to correct, not yours! It would be great for you guys to stay friends and maybe you can be a good role model for the baby but don't start calling yourself a dad. If she was a real friend she would never have suggested this. Has she spoken to her parents and family? What do they think. You need to remind her that you were not in that bed when this baby was made and you don't need nor want to play dad. You can be there to support her but even this is a huge job at 15. Please think about this properly before you go agreeing to something like this. It's not fair on your or that poor little baby. Think of the baby's future if not your own

Do not do it. If she is a friend then its great to be supportive but to be a proper Dad you need to bring the child up with her. You are too young and she may well be too desperate. Please trust me - this all seems very real and important to you now but in a few short years you may well want to be doing something very different with your life.

Another point - at 15 you are "one person" ask anyone wether they have the same attitudes and aspirations now they are older as they did then - vast majority will say hey didn't.

Friend or not - you should be getting ready to get out into the wide world and not get tied down in any relationship for a long long time yet

Friends can make the best pairs. Kids are hard work and she can definitely use all the help she can get. It is awesome that you are willing to step in a be a father to this child. It is important for a child to have two parents if possible. Better start saving money. Kids are really expensive. Have you talked to your parents about this. You two could probably get your parents to help out. Be honest and see what they are willing to offer as far as supporting the three of you. Good luck. It will be a lot harder than you think. Your friend should at least go after the natural father for child support.

At this age, you stepping in would mean your parents stepping in as well. You can love each other to bits but that child is not yours and you dont know that eventually the other guy or the other guys family will not come out of the blue and want things like custody etc.

First of all you say she may have got pregnant, you mean she doesnt know?

I have been in this situation myself i met my ex when i was pregnant he took my son on as his own but i found that every time we argued he threw it in my face had i known back then what i know today i would of raised my son alone im not saying that all men are like this but lets be honest your 15 you have not had a life yet what if in a few years you decide that been a dad is not for you you have your whole life ahead of you enjoy it while it lasts .Babies carry a lot of responsibility and you just cant walk away from that a baby please think about this before you make any decisions.

15 is so young! Has she told her parents yet? They may want her to abort the child. But you both have so many opportunities ahead of you. It depends on how much of a father figure she wants you to be. You need to talk to you parents about this. And it probably wouldn't hurt if both your parents sat down with you and you all talked about this. A baby is a huge burden.

Also, make sure to think about your future. Will you marry? What line of career do you plan to go into? A baby will affect all of these things and not something to be taken on lightly!

I think it's a huge compliment for her to ask this of you, but it will affect you massively.

Best of luck with your decision!

Yes...just be there for her, but that;s quite a lot for a 15 year old to do. Great thing but, just know what you;re getting yourself into, I am not saying don't do it, I am just saying be aware. Your life is going to change a lot and there's going to be a lot of stuff you're going to give up so if you;re going to do this, don't just back out if it;s gets too hard because that will hurt HER and the baby.

But that is an awesome and wonderful thing that you are doing and I wish you the best of luck.

um wtf? 15 yr olds dont start taking care of kids. where are the girls parents? they should step in. you could help out and support her by being a good friend to her, and being like an uncle or a friend to the kid. its not ur responsibility to be the babies father. its her's considering she was dumb enough to have sex and get pregnant at 15 (no offense), and the guys who got her pregnant. "He doesn't want to take care of the baby", well thats too bad, he doesn't have that choice. He thought about before he had sex w/o a condom.

Man i hope Obama does something about our educational system.