I have a severe phobia of spiders and insects. I can't even stand those little gnats flying around my face, and I totally freak out if there's a larger insect around. Yesterday I got out of the shower and saw some kind of beetle crawling on the edge of the tub and freaked out. When it flew up to the wall I got out of there before I could even finish getting ready, feeling dizzy and shaky.
This is an actual phobia. I don't just dislike bugs, I'm terrified of them. And my family doesn't even try to understand. My dad and brother think I'm just overreacting or being a drama queen. My dad actually told me that I was ridiculous and that I was just encouraging my fears by letting myself be afraid of some ****. He obviously has no phobias, because if he did, he would understand that you don't think rationally. You're totally in the moment, trying to get away from what's scaring you. Insects make me so anxious and they just don't get it.
They're also not understanding of my social anxieties... I'm painfully shy, especially around strangers or people I don't know well. I become extremely anxious when I have to go to a new place alone (even if it's just knocking on the neighbors door or walking to the restroom in a restaurant). I know I CAN do these things, but thinking about having to do them or actually doing them is so hard for me. My dad gets so mad at me when I don't want to talk to people or do things, saying I need to get over myself and just do things. He says he doesn't know what I'm going to do once I move out because I act dependent. I'm actually very independent and love being alone, but my anxiety prevents me from doing things outside my home or with strangers.
I've told my mom about my anxiety and she keeps saying she'll get me in to see someone like my dad's psychologist, but keeps putting it off. This is all making me so angry, because I have to deal with my dad and brother making fun of my fears, and my mom not doing anything about it to help me.
(I am 17, by the way, still living at home and in high school)
What should I do? They just don't get it, and it makes me anxiety worse and irrational fears worse (I have other fears besides insects/spiders, but I don't think they're quite bad enough to be phobias). I also have a very short temper with them because they're always making me so mad by saying and telling me things they know nothing about, so I get in trouble for saying mean things or yelling at them. THAT'S when they say I'm overreacting and stuff, but in reality I've just had enough of them CHOOSING to not understand me (they make no effort at all).
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Hi, well its nice to see i have someone to share my problem with... Even i have a huge fear of bugs, insects and animals. whatever that moves and isnt a human, i freak out completely and run away screaming and then i end up shaking frantically and crying. Until a couple years back we had a dog at home which my sister loved, it was with us for 8years but every time it barked or came close to me i'd go and hide in my room and start crying. I know how scary it is and i also know how it feels to be alone in this. Even my dad, mum and sister love animals and they dont hesitate at all. And the worst part is how they thought this fear of mine was a joke.
And the weirdest part about this is that i love snakes. But now, i'm sorta getting better and growing out of it and trust me you will too. Just be patient with yourself and the key is to ignore what everyone else says or thinks.
(By the way, I'm 18 and in high school)
Just be yourself, and trust yourself and mostly BELIEVE and KNOW that these bugs and insects cant do us any harm and they are also trying to escape. Patience will get you through this.
And since recently, maybe about 6-7months back, my boyfriend has been with me and he's been really gentle with me and he has helped face these fears bravely. Thanks to his understanding and patience i'm not very afraid anymore. I even have a pet cat named Ariel now.
I guess what I'm trying to say is just be patient and try to give yourself some time to pull yourself together before you judge the bugs and insects for the exorcist. :D
Oh and by the way. you DONT need a psychologist, you'll be fine, as i said just be patient with yourself, before you have to go somewhere or meet someone just close your eyes, count to three and tell yourself "I'M GONNA BE JUST FINE"... And then before you know it, it'll be over. And when you close your eyes just block the world out for those few seconds then when you open your eyes you'll want to meet people. Another tip is, try not to think about it as much, just get some other thing to distract you. Like what they might be wearing, or their looks, make it funny perhaps.
And no matter what you do, GO IN WITH A BANG AND ALWAYS ALWAYS KEEP SMILING [it makes time fly ;)]...
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I feel completely the same. Today a moth came into my room and I freaked out. I ran out the door into my dad's room and said there's a bug in my room. He went in my room and said " I don't care, bugs are not scary!" I started crying because, well, I have a really bad fear of bugs. My mom asked "why is she crying?" And my dad answered "because of a stupid bug" they always make fun of me for it. (By the way I'm 16) and sorry for making an grammar mistakes. I was writing this on my phone
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