My sister in law is PS and has been sectioned twice now. She refuses medication and does not think she is ill. After her last section she has been injected with a drug and is now more stable and back in the real world. She does not accept that she is ill. She also needs a hip replacement so she is quite immobile. She is 39 and just married talking about having children. This really makes me concerned.
Does anyone know a PS with children/ How do they cope/ Am i mean to think she should not have any children?
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Paranoid Schizophrenic should be on medications. I would be concerned about her having children as well because their personality can change in the blink of an eye. I was married to one. He was awful, one minute he would say he loved me, and turn around and say he wanted to kill me. I brought him to a Psychiatrist, telling him it was for marriage counseling. I explained to the doctor before hand why I wanted my husband (x now) to see him. Long story short, the MD took him first, then me. When I was in there, the MD was very concerned for my safety. He told me how he changed before his eyes. Well, he did try to kill me. very scary. I would be very concerned about this woman having children especially since she is in denial. She may hurt those children when they act up as children do. The hip replacement will get better and allow to walk in time, I wouldn't be concerned about that, the other problem, wow, that scares me.
To just make a general statement that someone with paranoid schizophrania should not have children is wrong. Many people do have it and function just fine with proper treatment and can be just as good of parents as anyone else.
However if she is serious enough that she has been sectioned and will not accept treatment or that anything wrong, no you arent mean in thinking that she shouldn't.
Not that it couldnt work out ok, but at the same time it could be a very dangerous situation for a young child to be in. Not that the father cant be a sufficiant parent, but unless he is always going to be there(meaning 24/7), there is room for the mother to become very unstable when the father isnt there to take over. All it takes is one day when he is at work and she is home with the child/children. Look at someone like Andrea Yates. Granted that kind of case is very rare, but it can happen.
I don't think you're being mean; I think you're being practical. Children need consistency and safety, in addition to love. A person who is PS would probably have a difficult time providing that kind of an environment- especially without medication. Also, raising children is naturally very stressful, so having a baby around might cause her symptoms to get much worse.
There's nothing you can really do about this though. It's not even your business, unless or until she produces a child. At that point, if you see abuse or neglect, you'll have a moral obligation to step in and do whatever you can to protect the child. (Hopefully, the baby's father would play the key role in protecting his child, but if for some reason he didn't someone else should.)
It's possible that her age and health problems will prevent her from producing any babies. In any case, try not to stress about it too much because it's out of your hands.
My 2 youthful sisters and that i've got been raised by skill of a paranoid schizophrenic mom, our dad left us as quickly as we've been youthful. She replaced into additionally a extreme alcoholic. we females grew up effective, all of us have college stages which we gained with the aid of stressful artwork without help and we are all fortunately married with a newborn each and each. the only element I nevertheless observe is that i'm a individual who avoids conflict in any respect expenses and that i hate no longer having foodstuff stocked (we went hungry lots as babies) additionally, one sister and that i the two have teenager daughters who've bi-polar sickness. the different sister has a teenager boy who has no issues. The psychiatrist that my daughter sees says that schizophrenia can pass a technology in women. If the grandmother had it, there's a miles better hazard that the granddaughters will too. We caught it early (bi-polar often turns into schizophrenia throughout the time of their 20's), so with a bit of luck with scientific care and medicines my sister and that i'm able to help our daughters.
In my experience as a mental health nurse, I have known several women with schizophrenia who have had children. How well they cope depends on two things - how well their own illness is managed and how much support they get. Sadly, sometimes children do end up needing care. But others have been raised very well by their mothers, with some additional help needed at times.
So unfortunately, it is impossible to be 'black and white' on this issue. Given her history though if she does become pregnant she should get plenty of support from the mental health services.
Good luck
I would have to say your also questioning your brother's ability if she were to be hospitalized again does the family plan on helping out ? is this something your brother wants ? but If they decide that is what they want be happy for them she is as you said in the real world