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I would - of course I've still got six years and one day before I've got to deal with having a 16 year old daughter in the first place...

The reason is: I spend every moment doing the best I can do for my kid, trying to get her to be the best person she can be, which includes being true to herself and those around her.

If by the time she's 16 she's not someone you could 'trust with her boyfriend', it means I've failed... and it's me who shouldn't be trusted, not her.

It all depends on the 16 year old and the boyfriend.

How long have they been together...if its a while like more than a month then the chances are they genuinely like each other and talk about there relationship together. Why not meet him and get to know him.

How is your relationship with the daughter?? If you are close can you talk to her about how your feeling, there should be no shame about talking about relationships within the family.

Sometimes you have to give a little bit of trust for someone to gain all of your trust. If your daughter has never done anything to disown trust before then you should have nothing to worry about.

A good thing is to be open minding at 16 your basically and adult and will learn lessons by making mistakes yourself.

Talk to her it should be fine

Hi, i know im not a pernt but i am a 16 year old girl. And honestly i dont think anyone can tell you if you can trust her or not. Its all up to you. Like you know if you can trust her or not. My mom trusts me because i havent done anything to ruin that trust and and she doesnt trust me with a boy alone. Its not me its the boy she tells me. I do argue with her but i know she is just looking out for me. So just explain to her that you dont trust the boy. Cause all boys are the same. And mothers do know best, no matter what the daughters think lol. So i just think you need to talk to her and explain how you feel:):)

the question would be whether I would trust the boyfriend with my daughter, in which case I'd need a few more details.namely under what circumstances and how much I knew about him. As far as my daughter would be concerned the answer is yes. I would trust her.I've brought her up right and I must trust her because not to trust her is asking for trouble.

You just have too! My daughter is 23, and the thing is, if she's going to get up to anything, she can do it wherever she is, whether it's here in my house, or at his, or anywhere else they happen to be. So yes, I trust my daughter, and we've always been able to talk about anything, even some of her mates come to me with their problems, because they say it's easier to talk to me than their own mums, because I treat them like adults!!

I have seen 16 yr olds with the maturity of 20 yr olds and 16 yr olds with the maturity of 8 yr olds , as you are the only one who knows your daughter ,you are the only one who can call this , personally , if you think she is old enough talk to her like an adult and explain your concerns ,if not ,just flatly refuse

Its down to parental instincts.

If she's 16, she's legal and an adult.

Has she been mature in te past? Is there anything shes done to make you NOT trust her?

I saw this quote once on a card, and I think it says it all. Perhaps this is the time for you to read it too:

"There are only two things we can give our children: Roots & wings."

If you have done your job, mom, you have taught her the best that you know. It's time to let her try her wings.

I know it's scary; I'm a mom and grandmother. But I also know if you stand on her wings like my mother did, she will rebel and you will both be diminished by it.

no because i know what i was messing around with when i was 16. of course when i was 16 the last thing i wanted was for my dad to know what me and my girlfriend were up to.

and why?

it is great for adolescents to form meaningful relationships with other people...even a boyfriend. but kids shouldn't be having kids, even on accident. so the "why' is because your parents are still responsible for you and your actions. after you turn 18 your on your own...and you own your own mistakes then.

You should know your self if you trust her,

does she tell important details of her life?

Does she ask for help when she is in a dilemma?

If she trusts you then you should trust her.