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Well, there isn't a god, and sex is not a reason to get married.

I recommend watching this video, first of all. Its long, but its what you need to do. You'll really **** up your life if you make decisions based on your belief in god. It might be hard at first to challenge your faith, but you'll thank yourself for it later.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dsAZSz2Yb_8

Second, just don't do anything rash. Don't marry your boyfriend. Marriage is very serious, and difficult to get out of, both financially and emotionally. Don't marry someone because you decided to have sex. You will be miserable.

I would recommend just keeping that in mind and doing damage control. Don't let the preacher pressure you into making stupid decisions. You may want to go ahead and tell one of your parents, and say how sorry you are, whatever.

This is something minor, so mainly, don't worry about it. Live your life as normal, and just do damage control. Also, I'll say it one last time; DO NOT MARRY A PERSON JUST BECAUSE YOU HAD SEX.

Do NOT get married until you and your partner want to be married. This is your life, not your bf's father's life or anyone else's life.

You say "...he keeps getting in my life..." You can easily prevent it.

1. Use caller ID and never pick up a call from an unknown number.

2. Make sure only you have keys to the place where you live. You can give a copy to someone you can trust.

3. Use the peephole on the front door. If it is someone you do not want to speak with, do not open the door, and do not answer by speaking through the closed door.

4. If anyone, including a bf's father who is a preacher, starts stalking, call the police. That is a crime.

If the guy wants to talk to anyone, he is free to do so. However, if anyone tries to bring up anything he told them, simple reply, "I do not discuss anything that person has to say." And NEVER waiver from that position.

Now, how else is he trying to get into your life? You can come up with simple ways to keep him out.

The courts will not be interested until the old guy commits a crime.

You should NOT get married if you aren't freely and openly choosing to get married. I doubt very much that a restraining order is possible, it doesn't sound like you have any real cause. Your bf's dad does have a right to some level of input, although you are free to say NO.

You are 18 and assuming your boyfriend is of a legal age, you are both consenting adults. Your decisions are yours' alone, and I see it stupid that someone would rat on an 18yo woman to her parents for having sex. If your boyfriend's father is harassing you directly, then I suppose you could get a restraining order. However, I'm not sure you can legally restrain him from telling your parents.

You should not allow this to push you into Marriage. Marriage is a large step that involves much more than a religious ceremony in this country. At the age of 18, I'm sure you aren't ready for the commitment.

Under no circumstances should you get married just because you has sex! That is absolutely ludicrous.

You are 18 years old. No one can force you to get married. plus, the BFs father sounds un-Christian to me.

You don't really have cause for a restraining order unless you feel threatened by the father.

You may need to tell your parents if it looks like he is going to talk to them. It's better they hear it from you.

1. Do NOT get married. Obviously, you aren't ready for marriage and don't want to be married. You only doom such a marriage to failure by entering into it this way.

2. Tell your boyfriend's father to back off and mind his own business. If he threatens you again, file a police report for harassment.

3. Your parents probably already know. If you live with them, tell them what happened. It isn't polite to have your parents blindsided by your boyfriend's angry father.

4. You are 18 years old. No one can force you to do anything that you do not want to do. You are an adult and legally can have sex if you want to.

5. Find a new church. If the church you attend puts up with this kind of harassment from one of its pastors, it isn't a good church. Last I knew, Christianity was about acceptance and love, not condemnation and ostracism. Would Jesus force you to get married? No. He would merely tell you to pray for forgiveness.

If you are a Christian then you know that you should not be using your body that way. You body is a temple so respect it. I do not believe that you should be getting married. You are too young and not able to make a wise decision. You should tell your parents as soon as possible. It is important to come clean about it and apologize before they hear about it form someone else. The boyfriends dad sounds crazy. I would not take the advice of anyone who claims to have direct revelation from god. I would not argue with him about getting married to his son anymore. Getting married will not make it okay. Getting married before you are ready will just make things worse. Good Luck.

I think you totally missed Casually Defiant's point, there is no state religion. If the burial ground is government property supervised by the VA, then technically no one religion should take precedence. Instead of slamming liberals I think your issue is with the founding fathers of our country and the constitution. So now it's "your religion" ? Did I hit a nerve? My understanding of the constitution is there is freedom of religion yes, but there is no endorsing one religion over another by the government. Also, last I heard Christianity belongs to anyone who chooses to follow it, including me.

This is very un-Christian behavior on the part on someone who is a preacher. I would see nothing wrong in getting a restraining order against him. When he violates it he can continue his ministry in jail.

OK so u strayed, now you are back on tract. Ask God for forgiveness, and streghth to say no in the future to sexual attractions. You are 18, and NO ONE can force you to marry. Its time to pull yourselves up and get out of mommy and daddys house and do things on your own. You are an adult.