I have been at this university for little less than a week now. I can't get along with any of my floormates as I've been put in a party floor and Im not much of a partier. Starting off this university, I was wanting to go to a different one, but decided on staying with this decision because of my brother who had told me great things about it since he is a graduate from here. I also thought that I will be closer to home where my parents would be, but they had jsut moved away so it is irrelevant now.
Another big thing is that my boyfriend goes to the other university. I know people are gonna think this is all about him, but I believe that if I was happy here, I would be happy. But instead, Im miserable in this big university and can't seem to get out of this mindset.
I know people say not to follow love but this isnt just about love, its about being happy in a enviroment I want to be in. I am looking into transfering for second semester, but the decision has to be made in the next two weeks. I'm trying my best to make the most out of it here but there is always the part I wish I wasnt here.
I was already planning on transfering next year to my bfs university. I know it is a risk to choose this certain university because of him but even without him, id be considering transfering. it just happens that he is at the university that will most likely accept me.
i have full trust in him, and so does he with me. i know its a risk, because love isnt always stable. He wants me to come, but he also wants me to decide on my own.
what are your opinions?
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Lexi-
First of all if you are in a "party dorm" and it interfering with your studying, you will get poor grades. You need to worry about your grades now. They will be the main determinant if you decide to transfer in letting you be admitted into any school.
Does your school offer more quiet dorms? It is essential that you only concern yourself with your grades right now.
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You can always look into transferring. If you like your boyfriends school than by all means transfer there. If either of you find someone else, life is life, and this is the way things are. My guess is you will have a better shot of holding onto him if you and he can work towards your transfer.
But you come first. And many people do not like huge universities. See what you have to do to study and get good grades which is what college is all about. .
As a person who is not much of a wild partier, I can sympathize haha! :) It is perfectly alright that you are not into partying 24/7. It's good actually! Remember college is about higher education, learning and receiving a degree in your field of interest. Parties are great in a proper place and time, but that is NOT what college is about.
If you feel you are not receiving what you thought this college would offer (interesting classes, time for homework, etc) definitely consider transferring; however, you have not been at your college very long, so personally I would give it at least another week or 2. You don't want to be a university hopper.
If you find you DO want to transfer, I see nothing wrong with going where your bf is. As long as they have the degree program you want then even if (heaven forbid) something went wrong with you and your bf you would still be able to go on with your life.
I wouldn't transfer just to be w my bf, but it doesn't sound like he's the entire reason your considering transferring, so I wouldn't worry about it.
Also, do not worry about what other people think. This is your life, your decisions, not anyone else's.
Good luck!