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I love you too and your sister still loves you ... she is your Angel now.

Please don't fret.

Try not to freak out and I know how hard it is because I have a daughter who is on the other side.

People say really nasty things to us who miss our dead ones ... so just try to ignore it.

I know it is cruel and other people never do understand so do not take it too seriously because they always say to "get over it" and "grow up" and "move on" but they don't understand grief.

Your lovely sister will always be around you as an angel and we cannot really say if this is true or if that is true and even the religious people have lots of different ideas about death.

My baby was 18months old so almost two years old and she drowned and tomorrow is her birthday and she turns 27 years old and no matter what anybody tells me ... I will not forget nor let go of my angel.

I go to her grave all of the time and have statues of angels and butterflies on her headstone and I grow flowers on her grave and I even grow an angel watch garden at the end of the row in the children section of the cemetery.

It is a heart shaped garden and is surrounded with nice white stones and little statues that I collect and add to and other people even put little windmills and flowers and vases and things there when they see it.

I feel good when I arrive in the cemetery and see the brightly colored flowers and it is like therapy for me when I tend the grave and my angel garden.

I love weeding it and watering it and I have spoken to the old man who has worked in the graveyard for over 30 years and he was happy for me to build my little garden and it makes me feel close to my child and I am okay when I think about her being down there under the ground in her coffin and I do still cry but I also feel that it is good to face it and to embrace it because if we do not talk about it then we might become drug addicts or drunks or do something silly or hurt ourselves so it is best to keep on being strong and face the pain.

Mourning is something that never ends when everybody else wishes it would for us and other people just want us close family members of the dead person to stop talking about it and stop thinking about the dead person but we cannot do that.

Other people do not understand what grief is and think it will go away and we will forget about them and be normal again but their spirit stays with us and we do remember.

Grief is not a thing that we can stop or get over and we can't just put our feelings into a box on a shelf and then we are all better.

You can make a shrine for her and write a book. You can gather up photo's and little things that were special to her and memories and keep them in a special place as a memorial to her.

You can go to her grave if she has one and place special things there like fairies and angel statues and a pot plant growing flowers ... if it is not too far away from your house.

All cemeteries have taps so you can take a plastic bottle with you and water the flowers or if you can't do that you can put artificial flowers there and remember her favorite color and buy cute little things that make you feel happy when you go back to her grave.

I have a little watering can that i leave beside the headstone so when i go there I just fill it up and water the flowers that are growing.

Sometimes they die so I just plant new ones and when the artificial flowers get old ... I just get new ones and replace them.

Every birthday I put fresh flowers there and some years it is a big bunch and other years it is a small bunch just depending on me.

I also do that on the day she died and this year I bought a little statue that is two blue birds on a nest and placed that in my angel garden and a nice bunch of flowers that I put on her grave.

Tomorrow on the 27th ... it is special for me so I will be going there early and I don't know what I will put there yet but I know that it is okay.

I don't get so upset anymore but that is because it has been over 20 years now and my thereapy has really helped me to feel like I am in control of my grief over my darling dead loved one.

I sometimes go there when I am upset and just chat away to her.

Sometimes I cry and other times I feel good because I am visiting her at her home.

The graveyard is full of peaceful feelings and colored flowers and it makes you feel heaps better than just to stay away from the grave.

A little angel statue got broken off her headstone soon after I put it there and I felt sad because I thought somebody smashed it but years later when I spoke to the old man who works there he told me that the lawn mowers sometimes accidentally clip the statues if they are hanging over the edge and so I realized that this is what happened to the statue and then I felt relief that nobody did hurt my daughters grave.

Even if some things do get broken or stolen or lost in the wind or the weather ... I just put more there and it is okay.

I am sorry for your loss. I know what is like to have someone you love die. Its hard and we may want to react by denying the reality of it or believing its just going somewhere else. Surely though you realize a person raising their hand before they die can be due to many more simple reasons then heaven or hell exist. I got up in the night and picked up the phone said hello and went back to bed once and wouldn't have remembered or known if my husband hadn't told me. I was dreaming about answering the phone. In that situation so could your sister or been hallucinating about something. It could have been an involuntary reflex. You can believe what you wish but it is best to be honest about the strength of the evidence and not exaggerate the interpretation of things to mean only what you wish. People who are skeptical of afterlife claims aren't trying to hurt you or your sister they are just trying to be honest in evaluating claims. One could also say if it were due to an afterlife being real her act was not necessarily because some particular religious afterlife being true but maybe something entirely different than what we believe. Maybe incorporal aliens send greeters to assist humans in their new incarnation as pure energy beings. Sounds ridiculous but one can make all kinds of assumptions here without more evidence.

Her soul fragment would go to its own soul plane. There is only one soul called the oversoul, and it is a collective where we reside until we reincarnate yet again and again ad infinitum.

Heaven and hell are just terms for the profane as such. We say that all matter has a vibration rate and obviously heaven will be at a very much higher level than that of earth/hell. Amen.

We are just human, no one knows.

She is, and you could've never been anymore correct in your life.

liar

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No, there is no heaven.

It may very well be so. Extending the hand(s) is common when reaching out to God for any reason. We see it a lot in prayer, for instance.

We cannot know why she did that. I work with the dying as a nurse and they do see all sorts of things - people who have died but also people who are still alive. Your sister lives on in you and the influence she had on your life. She is no longer in pain and has no fear.