I have noticed the way Clergy preaches about divorce has caused a "Divorce Stigma" to happen within the fellowship of believers. Their excuse is somethings Jesus said to legalists in Matthew 19. As I read all the Scriptues where Jesus talks about divorce it is always in the context of him talking to legalists who have "Hard Hearts." I am a Christian and I do not have a hard heart. God's law of love is written on my contrite/soft/plyable heart. I believe this divorce stigma is due to a misunderstanding and severe mis-application injected into the love arm of the Church, which has caused her to become infected with a spiritual virus. The Matthew 19 section has as its thesis the question, "Is it Lawful.? God has only one law, Love, and it does not apply to non-legalists such as I am. Thank you, Reverend Dion Ray Irwin, a.k.a Dion Domino (a music performing name).
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Christians think that being married to a jerk is suffering and suffering is good.
In the passage you mention, Jesus tells the Pharisees that Moses allowed them to divorce because of the hardness of their heart, but that God it was not the original plan of God.
In other words, if the heart of man was not hard there would be no need for divorce. That is the context of the hardness of heart statement.
There is only one law and it is love, but you cannot divorce without breaking the love commandment.
Jesus is not contradicting himself, he said this: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, except for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced commits adultery. Matt 5:32
and Paul said this
"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:10,11.
It's pretty clear.
Now you don't have to condemn yourself if you have already done it, just repent and God will forgive you. But if you marry again, you will be responsible for this now that you know it.
divorce IS a stigma.
not the preacher's fault.
scripture stigmatize divorcees.
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses BECAUSE OF THE HARDNESS OF YOUR HEARTS suffered you to put away your wives: but FROM THE BEGINNING IT WAS NOT SO.
Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
so WHY do people divorce instead of forgive ?
hardness of their hearts.
your post reminds me of the argument of homosexuals who insist on being accepted on par with the rest of society and by the church.
i know there are churches w homosexual preachers.
you can always start your own brand of church w divorced folks ... all overflowing with Love.
God has tons of laws... and none of them were removed.
Why is it you all use apologetics for divorce and remarriage..... yet don't do so in the same way for homosexuals, non-christians, etc.... This type of bias is silly really.... You wouldn't tolerate it from another group, so why should anyone else tolerate it?