I work as a cam girl on a site. This is actually my second job 2 make extra $. My bf was aware of this before we started dating. Few days back he thought that since I was working as a cam girl it made it ok for him to join one of those sites and pay girls to perform 4 him on cam. I was upset when I found out about this and politely asked him not 2 visit that site anymore as it was considered cheating. I also asked him not 2 waste anymore of his $ on that site and rather spend it on something that could benefit him in the long run. I knew he would defend his actions by bringing up my secondary profession which he did. He called me a hypocrite. I tried to tell him that he and I have different motives when we’re visiting those sites. He disagreed with me and argued that I get pleasure out of it too. I have 2 admit that on some occasions I did get pleasure out of it. I know I’m going to get attacked 4 this. But my main purpose is to make more money which I’m in desperate need of. And I can’t simply quit because I can’t avoid getting aroused at times. I even asked my boyfriend if we could work as a team on that site but he refused saying it wasn’t his thing. I also offered that I could do a striptease for him or something in case he got horny but he again refused and said that preferred watching other girls on cam. Now, I don’t know what 2 do. I can’t give up my second job. I also can’t tolerate my boyfriend giving money to other cam girls & watching them. Am I really a hypocrite?
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Yes, you're a hypocrite. But it sounds like the two of you deserve each other.
You are not a hypocrite, it makes sense, you are doing it to make extra coin and he's splurging his money on them. So don't worry and stand your ground.
In a word? yes
Your motives may be different, but the results are the same
money/exposure/sexual gratification
You are doing what you need to, to get by financially yes? and see no harm in doing what you are doing
so why is it harmful when ist him?
When you are in certain professions, there has to be limits and lines drawn, of course there does, like any other relationship, but it seems you can justify you doing things and have no time to listen to his. You shut him down as you are convinced you are right. MANY guys wouldnt want their gf working as a cam girl, he IS compromising with you, time to return that
It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't respect you. If he won't pay attention to your requests, then why are you with him? I'm concerned that you are working as a cam girl. My concern is your reputation and the fact that anyone in your area could log onto the site where you are. If that person does not like you, he could start rumors and gossip about you. It doesn't seem to bother this boyfriend what you do to raise money - that bothers me a great deal. Is your boyfriend giving you money at all? If he is not, then again I ask you why are you with him? You don't say clearly why you are trying to raise money but I wonder if you could not find another job which would help you to save up for what you need? You could become very dependent on this source of income and even if you save up what you need, you might not be willing to quit this job. Are you having low self esteem issues? If so, you should work on them. If I were you, I would lose this boyfriend fast and never look back. Good Luck to you!