Okay so i have this "friend" we were like best friends in late middle school grade up till now....i think she is jealous.
Examples:
•Had this coat, everyone complimented it but behind mah back when she thought i wasnt there she said "okay its cute but where is she going w/ it??" << i kno thats not real "OMG SHES JEALOUS" proof but there's more....
•Gets attitudes when people compliment me
•When she is with this "group" i know, the makes fun of somthin i have/wearing/or doing. And its realy really stupid, and not even funny...like i brought this new jacket and ppl complimentd me on it but then she and the group was like "ew its soo bright blah blah blah"
•Alllsssooo, i catch her staring at me and now i hear her talkin behind my back more
Its just annoying how i was so nice to her and did things for her for the longest time and she even said how good of a friend i was, but now since last year she has changed.
So is she jealous or what?! Should i just "drop our relationship?
Update:she also hangs out with the ppl i normally do...so its a bit hard to ignore her or somthing, you know?
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She's not a real friend if she's talking about you behind your back. I realize its hard to let go after you've "invested" the time in getting to know her, etc, but sometimes, you have to cut your loses.
Jealous or not she doesn't care about you much atm and feel it's ok target you to make herself seem "cooler" in front of the group.
This actual has happened recently to a friend of mine where her best friend started making her look bad in front of a mutual group of friends. They would then escalate to major fights and then make-up, then the cycle starts again. She decided that it was enough and had to end the friendship permanently but had to be civil because of the others in the group. If you distance yourself and ignore her more often maybe others would follow your lead as starting to think she's immature etc. Eventually her and the group may start to fight each, talk behind each other's back too.
The best thing to do is be nice to her. You don't have to like her even. sound stupid? not really.
i've had a friend, and she was really mean to me, and so i decided to ignore her and not be friends with her anymore. did not work out so well, because she ended up hating me. and there was a big fight. and then at the end she just didn't like me anymore. which was fine, right? because that's what i wanted. but later on she became some what popular and whenever we crossed paths it became very akward, and i could always feel her glaring at me. and all her friends didn't really like me either.
so in conclusion be nice to everyone, no matter what. because in the future you might need them someday or what not. because you wouldn't want to end up being partners on a project with your evil ex-bff in social studies class. it sucks.
That definitely doesn't seem like much of a 'best friend'. But considering how long you guys were friends for, it's better to give her the benefit of doubt I suppose. You can talk to her about it, but if you're afraid she'll make a scene or just deny everything, it's time to move on. Clearly she can't deal with her jealousy issues.
You should talk to her first, and tell her that you feel like she's giving you an attitude. But if nothing changes, get rid of her as a friend. I had a friend like that, she started of doing small rude things, and i never talked to her about it, b/c even though i didn't like her anymore, Her twin sister was EXTREMELY nice, and, just everything she wasn't, and i thought if i fought w/ her, it'd come between me and her twin. so i never said anything, and she ended up accusing me of calling her a poser hours after i had just told her my grandma died, and then she proceeded to curse me out online, and of course i said bad things back, but maybe if i had told her that she was being rude when she first started (regardless of her sister), we wouldn't have gone from
BFFL-----me not liking her-----being"enemys"
so stop her before your friendship spirals out of control.
she is no real friend she used u and fooled u and she makes u look like a fool when u take her as ur friend and she talks ur name behind ur back so u need to tell her to her face that u dont wanna be friendz wit her anymore and get new friends who will take u for a friend oo and shes jealous of u too
Yes she is jealous and wat kind of a friend talks behind your back drop her like a bad habit or and let her no that it's not your fault that people find that your HOTT with a capital HOTT.
Anyway you can do better get new friends who will be happy for you when people find yuh lookin good.
Some people are only meant to be with you for a little while...people change...the real person is coming out.....if you value the friendship...do you feel straight talking to her about how you feel???? try it and see what happens....
Some of my friends did/do that. I had 1 "best" friend who grew up and left me behind. And I just made it (pravetly and mentally) that she isn't my Best Friend.
She's probably not the best best friend you can have, so just do what I did with my friend mentioned above.
i have a friend just like that just ignore her the friendship is no longer there and she'll probaly get angry if you tell her shes changed because thats what happened to me