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I always go for the butt. One sharp smack with a nice crisp sound's a spank for me. The trick is to aim properly, then flick yr wrist quickly & suddenly (for a nice touch of surprise) & *smack!*

I think it works best when you're in like, an empty hallway for example. Then it echoes all around haha.

*edit: crap i just realised this is in the parenting category. *blushes* sorry.

Define Spanking

To me, a spanking means hitting with an open hand on the bottom, leg or arm. It can be one or multiple hits. I have never thought about a maximum amount, but I think maybe 5?

If one were to use a closed hand or an implement such as a hairbrush, paddle, etc. or hit with an open hand in excess of 5-10 times that would, to me, become a beating.

I don't agree with using what I define as spanking a parenting tool, but also don't consider using it - in specific situations - to be abuse.

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Define spanking....?

Define spanking for me. Not the dictionary definition, but YOUR definition. What do you spank with (ie., hand, etc.), how many swats, etc. I mainly want to hear definitions from people who are AGAINST spanking to see what they think. Thanks for inputs. Just curiosity here....

2-3 swats on the butt with my hand (so I could feel exactly what I was doing). Beating is different. A spanking should sting (not bruise) for a few minutes. It's meant to be uncomfortable. I think it should be the last result, after all attempts at reasoning have failed. I also think it should be expected. I have never "jerked my children up". God, I hate that. Mine have always been warned and knew this would be the next step. They were talked to before and after and explained that they knew this was coming and they could prevent it from happening again.

I have 4 daughters. They not had a spanking in years and had very few then. But they were effective.

FYI: I was spanked as a child too. I was never spanked by my dad after age 5 because I could reason well. I was never afraid of my dad. I loved him and wanted him to be proud of me. I'm 41 and still do.

EEEWWW! I will assure the strange person that it IS not sexual. I don't mix pain and sex in any form. ESPECIALLY with my children. Dear God, what happened in your childhood?

I think effective spanking is good. As long as its not out of anger or not hurting the child. You almost have to in situations. I hate people who are so against it. Would you rather let your child run into traffic or spank them so it scares them from running into traffic. Its its a case where they could get hurt, then yes, they need to be spanked. Or if they reach for a hot stove, you going to stand there and say NO, and watch them touch it. No spank them, for their own safety. There is nothing wrong with that.

I totally agree with harleysangel. A lot of times when it comes to young ones they don't quite get the time outs. With my daughter she kept touching the stove, and I tried everything. After I swatted her behind she never touched it again. Sometimes you have to spank for your child's safety.

Spanking is training a child to avoid a certain behavior for fear of being caught doing it by someone who will cause them pain when they do that behavior.

1 or 2 swats would do it.

I use to get "spankings" with all kinds of crap growing up, ranging from hands to hot wheel tracks. I learned though.