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hun, this JUST happened to us i was only a week preggo. get your boyfriend to read this website below. i showed it to my hubby and it helped tell him things i couldn't. he also did not have much to say but the important thing is that he is letting you have your greiving period and being there for you like you say. woman are more emotional and it is natural for us to feel a greater loss. He might just be scared, and doesn't want to appear weak or worried because he thinks it will upset you more. this is totally natural...he will come around....i'm very sorry for your loss. we have decided to look at the positive that we actually can make a baby together, this just wasn't the one. keep trying.

There's a possibility that he doesn't understand how you feel about the miscarriage. Maybe you should try and talk to him again about it without letting him change the subject (do so without causing a raised voice or argument). If worse comes to worse, go see someone together. Do whatever it takes to work through it. Maybe he's having a harder time with the miscarriage than he lets on, which is why he doesn't want to dwell on it.

Men don't seem to be able to deal with things like that. My ex-boyfriend joked about my miscarriage. It was very upsetting for me. I stopped talking to him for 3 months. I don't know why I started to talk to him again after that. I just felt so lonely and upset about the whole thing and I needed someone. I recommend counciling. That is what I should have done. You probably feel like no one understands what you are going through, but there are people out there who do. I still feel bad about it sometimes. I feel like I lost of part of me.

since it was only your first try it may be that it didn't really sink in enough for him to get excited about the thought of having a baby...

More likely however is that he's very upset but trying to be strong for you so that you don't worry about him on top of the sadness about your loss. Of course he's obviously making you worry about him anyway and I think you need to tell him how you feel and ask him to talk to you. Since he's ready to make the commitment of a child with you he should be able to talk to you about anything.

I'm sure he is upset about it, but doesn't handle it the same as you. Also to many men the fact that they are going to have a baby doesn't really sink in until they baby is born, so an early miscarriage probably seems a bit "unreal" to him...

Sarah, I can't imagine how you must feel at this time. But I am sure your b/f feels bad, but we males have a completely different was of dealing with these issues. Also, we aren't ever completely sure what females expect of us. We think that whatever we may say or do will be wrong, so we tend to do nothing. Don't despair. Believe me, he's feeling something, and that may be all you'll ever know. It might be all HE will ever know. These things confuse us.Just let him know that you love him. He'll respond to that. Good luck!

Depends on the guy. I think alot of guys probably wouldn't care too much.... And they are not the ones going through it. some men can be heartless about it and not give a crap but some might just show some sympathy.

But of course they don't and won't understand!!!

And I wouldn't dwell on it either... I don't like feeling down...

Maybe he is trying to get your mind off of it instead of dweling on it? There is nothing you can do about it. He is probably hurt and running away from the emotions. Usually what men do, instead of crying about it for hours upon hours every day, like most wemon. It will get to him sooner or later.

yes they feel the pain too, its different but it still hurts them

it depends sometimes men feel very down for a miscarriage

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