this is gunna be long but i dont have anyone to talk to and need someones opinion:(. Im a senior and my ex is a sophmore and we went out during the whole year until March like 15. She came back from a field trip with most of her friends and broke up with me and i begged and crap for the night and stuff and she said she didnt feel a "spark" anymore. all of her friends hate me for no reason i dont know any of them so they have been telling her to break up for a long time and go out with this kid thats obsessed with her in their group,and i only talk to one of her friends and she likes me and says we are great together. One of my ex's guy friends is obsessed with her and literally follows her and my ex never saw it. He is a freshman and has gotten girls to break up with their boyfriends for him before like a lot and now she is going out with him one month after we broke up. He is the complete opposite of me. I havent talked to my ex in a week and she said a "last goodbye" but said she misses me terribly and when i brought up her now bf she said he is nice and doesnt want a relationship but then they go out. Plus she had a bad long distance relationship experience and college is coming up and she was worried id cheat. toward the last month of our relationship it rumored i cheated i never ******* did and i dont talk to that person anymore cuz i heard they spread we did stuff she beleived me. She also told me about a major family issue i just need to know what i should do, i dont wanna give up on REAL love, she says she missses me but when we text she just ends up getting upset and angry idk why!? any help would save the last months of my senior year :( please should i wait for her to text me or message her casually like advice. My theory is she doesnt wanna get hurt from a long distance problem even though i could never, her friends didnt ask her to hang out cuz of me and she doesnt wanna be alone again in a group, she is feeling lonely and wants to feel loved in a relat
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alright bro, coming from a guy who was dating a freshman his senior year, you have two options to follow here neither really better than the other: 1. try to rekindle the sparks you two had, do things to remind her why she loved you and dated you in the first place, and just try to get her to start talking with you again which can lead you two to becoming closer again and making your spark a fire. Option 2. sit around and hope she texts you even though she has a boyfriend already and her friends hate you, when their friends hate you its unlikely you'll get a text because of the strong support group she has around her that is so anti-you for no apparent reason other than their probably jealous of her dating an older guy. But nothing says she'll ever text you while your sitting their waiting. Personally I'd go with option 1, but sometimes it really helps to give her a little space then attempt to do it. AS far as her not trusting you because your going to college, it says alot about her, she should know your love for her is real, and that not every guy just is trying to get some. I feel for ya man pretty much been in a situation very similiar to that one. Just gotta let things take their course and live with the decisions that made. Don't push to hard for something either, if they really want it, they'll come around
I understand completely actually. The same thing happened to me in senior year. I know it seems tough to get through and its not always the best feeling to feel like She's pushing you away. But you sorta have to take in stride what she says. My ex bf said "we just don't click" when he broke up with me. later he explained it was because I was graduating and leaving him behind :( I didn't see it that way and offered not to go to college until he graduated but that was a hopeless attempt to cling to someone I loved. Moving on I realized that eventually I'll find someone I love more then him. And I'll be happy. But if you can find no chance at fixing the relationship maybe its time to start looking again. Its better to be happy at least with friends then to be miserable trying to get someone.
Better meet her in person and ask her what she thinks.