I was in a relationship for 3 and a half years and now i have a daughter who is 4 months,Wehn i first found out i was pregnant he started acting funny and i did catch him cheating on me so i left him and we eventually got back together two days after i gave birth to my baby. the girl he cheated on me with is his high school sweetheart. he says he cant stand her and talks about how nasty she is when im with him and then i find out he is with her while i was pregnant and they where trying for a baby while i was pregant! and they where engaged, i had no clue! then i guess i wanted to work things out with him and he just left her, she hates me and i dont like her at all, he has cheated on me at least 4 times with her and she knows where together. well i found out not to long ago maybe 2 weeks now that he was talking to her again so i said im done and that was true.. now he went from being i love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you to going back to her! what?? i just want to move on and get over him it just hurts me so bad. what do i do? he only goes back to her every time i leave him and says he will take me back anytime. what a a** hole. how do i move on without feeling so sad?
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realize you are far better off without him in your life
I am just wondering how can anyone feel sad for some bastar* like him . You shud be happy that God has gifted you a baby and its the most wonderful gift a woman can have . take care of urself and the kid becoz being a single mom ia another challenge . Wrap ur entire life around this angel of yours and u won't have a single minute to thing about him .
Don't be heart - broken . its better to be alone rather having a snake in ur house .
It is so hard, I know. He is a player just like my hubby. but my hubby was agreat liar and I didn't find out for years that he was with one of my best friends. It takes a year for every four to heal from a relationship and it is harder when you have kids together because you always have to see each other and commuitcate. He sounds like he is using both of you and wants to be taken care of by both of you. He may love you but not love you the way you deserve for being the mother of his children. You can only take being treated like a doormat for so long. If this helps divorces and break ups happen every day, we will get over it. They will keep the behavior up and cheat on their mates again and again. We don't have to deal with the lies anymore, I heard there are good guys out there just waiting for good women like us. But we have to heal and like ourselves before we can move on again. I focus on the unconditional love my children have for me and it makes me strong, hopefully you can do the same. There si something better for you out there, you didn't go thru all this pain and suffering for nothing, better things are to come. I have actually lost 31 pounds, going back to sc hool in September and have put down floor tile in my bathroom. At times I still feel lost but I haven't missed a week at church since he left us. Pray it does a body and mind good. best wishes to you. You know something, don't be afraid, you are stronger than you think and you probably have been alone doing most of everything yourself anyways , so whats to miss??? the BS and waiting, waiting waiting - -for truth and love. You made it before HIM and you can Make it after HIM.
It is normal to be sad when a relationship like yours breaks up.You invested 3.5 years in it and you can not expect not to feel some sorrow when it ends.However,a person who acts like your ex is not mature enough or ready to be a proper husband and father.Find other things to fill the void created by his absence and concentrate on creating a happy life for yourself and your child.When things get to tough,just hold on and remember that this too shall pass.Live a life of honor,dignity and courage and good things shall come to you.It may be a cliche but it is still true.Tough times don't last,tough people do.Hold on,girl and this too shall pass.
it's ok to be sad .. what's not ok it to be sad for a long time
at least you're not alone right ? u have a baby counting on you and will be ur future best friend as soon as she/he learn how to talk :)
think positively and be thankful that u won't waste the rest of ur life with a man who's not worth being with you.
good luck
He doesn't want to be with you or he would be with you and only you. I kow you say he only goes back to her when you dump him..but you only dump him when he's with her already..you need to get away from him. I know you have a child and so it will be hard but dont lose your dignity. You deserve someone who wants to actually be with you. Please stop this now or you will keep being hurt in the future. I learned the hard way.
Just focus on your daughter at this point. It's clear he's only into mind games, which is never good for anyone. You don't need that hassle right now.
re: i just want to move on and get over him it just hurts me so bad.
>>> And imagine what this filth is doing to your baby.........DO YOU EVEN CARE????
what do i do?
>>> Do whatever it takes to protect your baby from being damaged by ROTTEN PARENTING and a lousey upbringing in a crumby family!
It is quite difficult to trust that guy.
Have heart and decide.